General

I was just thinking to myself, as someone who isn't slim by any means but also isn't huge yet, if I were out in the real world and not on a site like this, how would I ever encounter someone into feederism? And it got me thinking.

As a feeder, if you didn't meet your partner/feedee online, how did you meet them? Could you tell they were into it, or was it something you awakened in them? I'd love to know!

I'm curious because away from this site, realistically I have no idea how I would encounter or be noticed by a feeder without already being much larger than I already am, so it's quite an interesting subject to me!

I can tell you my experience, and I would be interested to see if it is common with other people, too.

I met my fat fella (Canuck) on a plus-size dating site/app. I have always found big, fat people attractive. I thought of myself as a "chubby chaser," and I had never heard the term "feeder" before.

It was my guy who, after we'd gotten to know each other pretty well, introduced me to this whole world. Up until then I didn't realize there was a subculture of people who were not only fat, but wanted to get fatter! I think it's important to point out that he introduced me to the idea, he didn't force or coerce me into participating in it.

The stages I went through were pretty predictable:
"Wow, this is weird."
"Why would anyone do this?"
"Hey, I can see how that is kind of hot." "Can we try this?"

Now feeding isn't a huge part of our life together, but it is part of our sex play and love life. And I am warming to the idea of seeing him get to 400 pounds.

So I would suggest that in any relationship, unless it is one of casual sexual interest, the kink is the least important thing. Find someone who you like to be around - most importantly when times are hard. If you develop trust, they are likely going to be open to the things that excite you.