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Feederism is the best thing ever! Fat is the only thing that turns me on! All my life!! Gaining weight is the best thing ever! It turns me on! But "afterward" it always makes me insecure! And I feel weird! And ashamed... What can I do about it? The last time I had it, I got into such a slump that I've now lost 28 kilos!

While I was finally getting fatter and happier! My belly started to sag... my fat was visible everywhere, and I was finally happy in my body.

Any tips?

I really want my fat back

The weight will come in time. What you really need to focus on is your relationship with your body. What mental roadblocks are you dealing with that make you ashamed? Once you get to a point that no amount of shame will make you not want to gain, you'll have no problem getting back to where you want to be.

It sounds like the same guilt people who aren't into this get when they eat too much. Like a shame in knowing that society would judge you for your gluttony.

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I love feederism with all my heart! Ever since I was young! Eating fat is everything, it's my passion. Ultimately, when I chose myself, I became fatter and happier. I also felt lonely because everything was online, my friends started nagging, etc. I had an insecure slump, and I lost 27 kg! I also get turned on by fat! It's the only thing that turns me on. When I'm done, I always feel strange afterward.

When I was young, I was sitting on the beach and saw a dream body... a man with a sagging belly struggling to get up. I'd dreamed about being fat before that, but when I saw him, I got excited and jealous. Then I secretly started eating, etc. I drew a fat body under my photos and searched for pictures online. Eventually, I gained some weight, but my parents made me lose weight, and my friends made me exercise. That's where my insecurity comes from. Three years ago, I made the choice to be fat and pursue my happiness! Well, unfortunately, until a few months ago.

I want to get fat!! Be fat!! Live to gain!… fat is love!!my life!.. I want to be strong!!! I am proud of my fat!! Only sometime insecure .. sadly

I understand this feeling. The biggest factor that has helped me is making friends who are fat and happy, especially outside of the fetish context. Also taking your gains more slowly can help because it makes the changes less obvious so people won’t comment on them as much.

Sometimes people outside of the feedism community who are fat will have a negative opinion of the fetish, but I think it’s worth it to get to know them. The risk is that you may develop more shame about the fetish aspect, but that will always be there because of taboo. The benefit is you get to know a variety of fat people, know their experiences and feelings, and see that a fat and happy life with friends and romance and sex is attainable. The key is seeing the person for who they are while recognizing how their weight throughout their life has shaped their personality and experiences.

Think about how and how often you interact with fat people on a regular basis. Examine whether you treat them differently from thinner folks and why, and also consider if you might be trying to ignore their fat as part of their identity! A lot of people, even those who are fat against their will, do want that taken into consideration (respectfully, of course) by people who interact with them.

I wish you the best, and from someone who struggles with all kinds of shame, body image issues, and social anxiety, I hope you can find your best way to live authentically. It is ALWAYS worth it to be your true self inside and out.

Happy indeed to see the confidence growing with each pound gained in this thread :-)

Hi, your feelings of insecurity is common among gainers. In fact it maybe a type of anxiety. If your shame is driven by relationships with others? I suggest you consider you ask yourself are you telling yourself that you will experience negative stuff if you gain, but in reality your not or has not happened. If you gain yes people will see, but do not think their reaction will be negative for you. I can tell you from my experience 90 pecent of people don’t care, they care about themselves not others. If your significantly above average size, some will give you more prolonged attention, most just curious, and a minor amount rude.

I focus on how I feel about about my fat and size. It worth doing this and see if it helps in time. Aka “don’t worry be happy” easier said than done.