anFAinPA wrote
How did my therapist react?
Well, he thinks that I've "settled" and that my attraction to fat women is a manifestation of my own low self-esteem, depression, anxiety, etc.
I argued this with him off an on for several sessions, and now I think he "gets it." It was when I used the gay/straight analogy, and asked him point blank that -A- have you ever had a gay patient? and -B- have you ever told him or her that their sexual preference is a manifestation of their own insecurity, etc?
His opinion of the subject is squashed, and now he's actually helping me figure out what to do, where to go...it's certainly a crossroads if my wife is repulsed by my preference after 10+ years of being enthralled with it. Luckily, we have no kids so if worse comes to worse, it's just us that have to manage.
That is exactly what i would be afraid of and part of me would probably belive what he said.
Congratulations on the way you handled it, very well done.