Hi everyone, I haven’t posted here in years, but recently I’ve found myself in a dilemma and hoped that I could get some of your sage advice. For the last 4 years, I’ve been going out with a beautiful SSBBW woman, and it’s been a pretty good relationship for the most part, but recently things have taken a turn for the worse for several reasons. One of which is that a few months ago, she decided that she wants to lose a lot of weight for her health. She’s lost at least 70 pounds so far, and there’s no sign of slowing down soon. Needless to say, I’m pretty disappointed with this turn of events. At first, I tried gently talking her out of it, but she couldn’t see my viewpoint, and we just ended up getting into a fight. I realized that she is dead set on it, and I later tried asking her to at least not discuss the details of it or update me on her progress. However, she says that I’m being unsupportive, and we just ended up in another fight.
Since then, my lips have been tightly sealed on the subject, but I can’t help but feel frustrated. Every time I get reminded of her weight loss efforts, which is often, I start feeling a little angry or depressed. Still, there’s a nagging voice in the back of my mind that thinks that I’m being a bad boyfriend if I’m not completely and openly supportive of her. Even so, it’s not enough to make me feel any less bitter about it. I try to SAY supportive things when she brings up the topic, but it usually comes off sounding pretty forced, and I’m sure she can tell. Is it wrong to feel this kind of resentment? What would you do if you were in my shoes? Let me know.
Since then, my lips have been tightly sealed on the subject, but I can’t help but feel frustrated. Every time I get reminded of her weight loss efforts, which is often, I start feeling a little angry or depressed. Still, there’s a nagging voice in the back of my mind that thinks that I’m being a bad boyfriend if I’m not completely and openly supportive of her. Even so, it’s not enough to make me feel any less bitter about it. I try to SAY supportive things when she brings up the topic, but it usually comes off sounding pretty forced, and I’m sure she can tell. Is it wrong to feel this kind of resentment? What would you do if you were in my shoes? Let me know.
14 years