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Ok. This is the story. This beautful BBW redhead and I have been flirting at work for awhile. Today, I come up behind her and gently put my hands across her midsection. She says "Don't touch my stomach!". Keep in mind, she flashed me her huge, lovely breasts just the other day. It seemed a bit odd to me. It was a flirtatious act to touch her stomach, but she seemed to be self concious of it. If I had no interest in big ladies, then why would I flirt with her in the first place? It's disheartening and dare I say a turn off when someone is that uptight about something, at least in my view.

Thoughts?

Well, she isn't a child in age, but maybe mentally. She's 19, and I'm 30. In fact, I told her I like her curves and softness, and she replied "Your odd", yet still continued to flirt with me. But, it was kind of a buzzkill for me, you know? I'm thinking 'If she's insecure about something insignificant, what else lies ahead?" That being said, it may not be insignificant to her. But, do I really wan't to deal with that?

This, well somewhat lol.

I find that for some larger women, the stomach can be a very sensitive area and i don't mean in that "ooh that tickles way"

For her, she may be more uncomfortable with her stomach then her boobs, hence the reason she flashed you.

Also, and this is more for everyone, i'd stay away from the stomach as a starting point unless you know the other person is into the scene or comfortable with it, for general society, the stomach still seems to be a "taboo" area.

Hopefully though you can work past this, probably apologise, and still continue with where the relationship was heading.

"Hopefully though you can work past this, probably apologise, and still continue with where the relationship was heading."

I don't feel the need to apologize, I did nothing wrong. I've put my arms around the stomach of slimmer women, and they didn't freak out like this girl did. Seems she has a belly issue. The midsection is naturally where your hands go when you hug someone from behind. I was meaning no offense, but she was sensitive about the issue. Go figure. I suppose we all have our quirks.

Well if a slimmer women reacted like that would you have apologised?

Everyone is different and is comfortable with different things, I just think if I did something to someone and they did not appreciate it, i'd feel the need to apologize for my forwardness.

However, like I said, everyone is different.

I agree, and I can understand the self consciousness to some degree. It's just frustrating finding a BBW in every day life that is comfortable with her body.

It's all good. All opinions are valued, and let's face it, it's the internet

"Also, you crossed the line bigtime putting your hand anywhere except her shoulder." So it's perfectly fine for her to come by and smack me on the ass in a work enviroment? She did that several times, and it didn't make me come unglued, I enjoyed it. She just has a belly issue, apparently. And yes, behavior like that is against corporate rules, but it happens all the time.

If I had no interest in big ladies, then why would I flirt with her in the first place?

People flirt all the time with people they are not physically interested in, I think it's just called fun.


It's disheartening and dare I say a turn off when someone is that uptight about something, at least in my view.

Turn off? Since you are 29 and a Fa, I think you should come to the realization that a young 19 year old girl and I stress young girl, probably is not going to be comfortable with her belly being touched unless prior approved by some guy she works with. Not everyone knows about this site and the other fat positive sites out there. I have just come to terms with my belly in last couple years and although I never had a problem with being fat, I always hated my belly and fantasized about cutting it off with a knife myself, so you see, I have come a long way. Why don't you, in a very gentle way, let this girl know about sites like this and that you frequent them looking for just her type.

It's all good now. It just got under my skin at the time, and I had to blow off some steam