General

OK, I agree with several points people have made (esp Chubosaurus). Here are some repeats and additions:

1. Spend time in contexts where you feel good. For me, FF is one of those, but also BBW club nights, dating sites, etc.--anywhere where we are understood to be as beautiful as we are. Looking at modeling sites is similar; you're filling yourself with images of fat beauty, so they get into your head.

2. When you go out, look around you, and imagine that some number of the men and women around you--I use 10% as an estimate I read somewhere--think you're gorgeous. This one helps me enormously. I love looking around and wondering who the secret fat lovers are.

3. Looking great is a big one. I'm *incredibly* fussy about my clothes--no wrinkles, no spots, no anything--because it's too easy to look sloppy if you're fat. Love your clothes and enjoy it!

4. Posting pics or vids here helps a lot of people, me included. If I feel in need of positive feedback, posting a pic does wonders.

5. If you like reading, reading some sassy fat positive books or blogs, or some sensuous fat erotica, really give me a renewed, more positive outlook, too.

Hope that helps!

Ok, maybe it will help you when I tell you you are cute and sexy!
And that I know a little about the subject, have been through it myself and now accept myself 100% and love all about it.
You have a interesting face that tells me already tha you are a fun person, but maybe a little shy showing that on a photo. And you gut nice hair (is that so soft and silky as it looks?) and wow, that belly... totally sexy.

It guess what I can tell you that it is a process, it takes a while to realize what you are and what you got. It is for everybody the same, no matter what you look like: we all get saddled with whatever we receive. We all know that we might change our mind, develop that or change things we don't like about our personality. But the body? That is fixed, you cannot change that. That is shocking, because it is so final.

But just because of that, it is also easy, if you see it from the right angle, since you cannot do a thing, so why not just accept it? We are all very hypercritical about ourselfes. We watch the news, the movies and watch the magazines and see these pictures of these women, that, well only are about 1% of the population. It is not a true representation of beauty. It is fake, yet you see it and think you are supposed to look like that.
I know you are out to get a girl, so don't worry about me hitting on you but you got a sexy belly! And for me a woman is supposed to have a clearly visible large belly. That is also because I like women that can enjoy and not kill themselfes about every gram of fat they got and eat salad only.
Compliments from others are a good way to start loving yourself, but remember and pay attention that you do accept them. Blowing them off with comments like "thanks, but...." renders them useless.

I can give you an example of me that might help you. I have large lips. The extreme stuff always makes it more difficult to accept ourselfes I think. So when I was a kid I thought that that was odd and wrong, since a man is not supposed to have large lips. Well, as I found out later, when kissing the first time, that women love large lips and that mine were made for kissing and that is why I love to kiss so much.

It also helps to for example record yourself on video. this can be hard and shocking at first, since you now see yourself as you really look, to others. We do filter much out when looking at ourselfes in the mirror.
It is hard, but can help. I can now see myself on video and listen to my recorded voice, knowing that it is me and loving it. But I remember having an issue with it too and learning with watching myself like that.

Markus (aka Rubens_Feeder)