Silver Fox wrote
I'm afraid the prognosis is not very good. At least from my point of view. I am married to a woman whom I thought was destined to be a BBW for the rest of her life. Only problem was, she didn't like being fat. And so a little over a year ago her parents gave her $10,000.00 to get WLS. She went from 225 to 140. At her peak she really needed size 24 jeans though she never bought any. Now she needs size 8! I do still love her very much, but I am not attracted to her sexually at all. Sex has become very unsatisfying. She also looks 10 to 15 years older since she lost all that weight. I am still undecided as to where this will end up. We are coming up on out tenth anniversary, but had started dating over 15 years ago. It is hard to conceive of not being with her, but it is also hard to conceive of never making love to a BBW again for the rest of my life.
As for you, WishFA, your situation may not be so bad. If you don't think your GF could ever possibly have WLS, then chances are very good that she will regain the weight she lost, plus some. That's the usual pattern. Doesn't happen 100% of the time, but certainly more often than not. It is even a possibility for my wife that she will gain some of the weight back. She is only 16 months out from her surgery. But she seems pretty determined not to gain it back... we'll see.
I know I'm going to be patient for at least another year. By then she will either gain a little weight back and/or I will just learn to live with her the way she is. We don't have any children together so that is not an issue. But I am 56 years old and the prospect of being single is not something I really look forward to.
Anyway, bottom line for you is to be patient for a while. Don't get married. Don't pressure her to gain. Wait and see where it goes.
Silver man I feel soo sorry for you. WLS can have some horrific side effects (I'd rather not mention them here). I can't imagine why anyone would ever subject themselves to that kind of procedure. Why do women always do this? They know, they figure out what it is that their partners find attractive yet they knowingly attempt to lose weight, become thin. It would seem counter-intuitive, illogical don't you think? Anyways I hope your situation rectifies itself.
