Gaining

I hope she finds out about this and ditches you. You're betraying her trust and that's a really lousy thing to do.

I've done this plenty of times with my girl, so I don't see the big deal. As for some of the other stuff, I do agree that it's a way to introduce it into the relationship, but my only advice (as I am doing it soon as well), is to just talk to her about it. See what here reaction is and see how she feels about it. That'll be the best for both of you.

It's not clear to me whether this is abusive feeding or not.

What would make it abusive would be if heilkibler's gf really has no idea she's overeating. This is possible but unlikely.

The other thing that would make it abusive is if she's expressed concern about her weight-gain, or how much she's been eating, or if she's explicitly asked hk to stop encouraging her to eat. In this case hk's only ethical course would be to abide by her wishes and not encourage her to overeat--unless he admits he wants her to gain, and gets her to agree to gain more.

Agreed.



I don't agree. For example, if your opinion were that the Earth is flat, your opinion would be less valid than mine.

Although I do agree with you, I would think that generally for this sort of thing a lack of explicit consent should be treated the same as nonconsent.