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My last girlfriend was fat (about 300), and I am a medium build, around 185pds. She knew I liked her fat, and even took pleasure in the fact that I enjoyed her body. But much of the time, she would COMPLAIN that she was overweight. Nothing is more of a turn offf than someone who constantly complains about how they look. Eventually I told her "If you don't like it, lose it." She never did of course, and the complaining continued. Finally I got to the point where I didn't even wan't to have sex with her anymore even though I loved her body. Lack of self confidence in a person is unattractive no matter what you look like.

Yeah. I reassured her plenty of times, but she still complained about herself. We even watched BBW porn together sometimes. She would get jealous if she had a friend around who was fat, because she knew I was into that. The relationship was about 8yrs long and even near the end, she still made negative comments about her weight. I loved her, but things like that wore me out and killed my sex drive for her.

Siberianwinter - "I'm glad you're heavier 'cause it means other guys won't like you as much" line.

Damn. That makes it sound like he doesn't genuinlly like big ladies, but he's so insecure he can't stand having other men look at his woman.

It's clear that your current and previous bf are not FAs. He probably likes you for whom you are, but has dated out of his physical preference comfort zone and is a bit anxious that you will get even more out of his comfort zone.

It's a difficult one. You really need to follow your own feelings on this, how you feel about the quality of the relationship.