Gaining

Good luck I told my wife actually my friend told her right before we started dating so when I told her there was no big surprise. She gained some weight because she knew what it did for me. She also never claimed to want to gain but she new how to turn me on and loved doing it and so over indulging and eating more under my encouragement she slowly packed on the pounds. I don't think she ever really wanted to gain the first 60 lbs they just accumulated with time over 6 or so years. Then after we married she really tried to be what I wanted and went from about 180 to 220. The whole time trying to gain for me and when she hit 230 lbs she said no more which I am fine with beacause she can still shop in regular stores. Just my story you can take what you want I am just saying if she loves you over time she will gain and tease you because most girls enjoy driving their guy wild. So she may give you mixed signals and will blame you for the weight gain just accept it and love the benefits I guess every situation is different so you can read her better than us

You need to be upfront and honest with her about everything, feederism, fat and all.

It really sounds to me like she is in two minds about the whole thing and is torn.

Part of her would love to give in and go along with it with you, but another part is still so scared of what society says and what people will think of her.

All you can do in this situation is make it crystal clear how you feel and what (hypothetically) you would like if she was ever to get involved in this stuff with you.

Otherwise it will go along like this for along time, nothing but a game as she tries to deal with the conflicting desires in her mind.

Show her its ok to be fat and you'll be there for her no matter what.

Good Luck!

It sounds like she wants to be in control of her weight, and not you. That is probably a good thing anyway, because she can't throw it up to you later.

I would just go with it. Most likely the less you say, the more she will eat. Probably best to be non-verbal about her gain. Touch and enjoy but don't talk about it.