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This, definitely.

I disagree. A fetish is a love for an object or situation, such as shoes or hanging upside down from a rope in latex or something. Therefor feederism is a fetish.

An orientation is the preference you cannot hide from so to speak. A preference is like a sublevel: liking blondes or fatties.

I think that it depends on why you prefer a fat partneer,like those that just like the look better or the softness in bed or that they usually have like better bums and boobs, that is a preference

but those that are like me and get turned on by the actual physical adipose tissue and everything to do with it is a fetish.

Agreed! Allthough I consider myself belonging to the first.

Dude, sometimes you just type pure gold. This should be in a dictionary or something.

I don't know how it develops, but I do believe it indeed stems from some childhood experience, whatever that may be. I have been attracted to fat since I was a child. I also often use the comparison with homosexuality because it is something most people understand. If you tell someone you are only attracted to big women, they may think that you are a superficial person who only goes by looks (a bit the opposite of the men who only want a skinny girl friend). I use the homosexuality parallel to explain to people that I didn't choose my fat preference just like a gay man doesn't choose to be attracted by men only.

I have been an FA since I was a child and I am sure this will never change.

I think all view point here have value, as a fat fetish is a very subjective matter. Personally, my development has graduated gradually from fancying slim girls when in my teens, but also liking slightly chubby girls. Even with the slim girls, it was always their more wobbly bits that turned me on. Then gradually as I got older liking fatter and fatter girls. At present I have a preference ranging from slightly chubby to supersized. Never thought it would go that far, but I find fat really addictive.

I have always been a sucker for is a pretty face and in my experience fatter girls have prettier and friendlier faces. As for wanting girls to gain, this has been with me since my teens for sure. As for why? I have thought about this for quite some time. I would say that a great many people have this preference in them (many more than would realise), but that most subdue this preference due to the media and peer pressure. If you have a more leftfield personality and have had very little negative reinforcement reguarding fat, then I think this preference will develop more naturally. More often than not it was fatter girls that I would get on best with, or would hit on me, thus I had plenty of positive reinforcement to help my preferences.

With so many more people in the western world getting fatter, there will be more positive and less negative reinforcement. When children see their mothers having good sex lives and still being very attractive to their sexual partners, this can only have a more positive effect. I'm sure that my mum's weight gain must have had a positive effect, as she was still attractive to the opposite sex. Also when my parents split, my dad married a chubby woman.

Gonna take a stab at this topic.

Thinking from an evolutionary standpoint, it might be something left over from a primitive time. With reproduction in the past, males were selecting partners that looked fit to continue their genetic line. Visually, a curvy woman might look better adapted for delivering a child than a woman who appeared as skin & bones. I'd have to assume visual cues that are hardwired into the male brain might explain why men are attracted to different aspects of a woman. As for a woman, it might just be an evolutionary cue as well, trying to signal a mate by looking well suited for childbearing.

So in the case of fat fetishism, it might just be this one cue that has grown and developed due to love concepts. Or as you develop a love style, a FA explores their fat fetish in context and finds the level of the fetish.

I'm with you in this one. And the artifacts prove it as well:


The Venus of Willendorf, discovered in Austria, is believed to have been made between 22,000 and 25,000BC

Such a 'curvy' mother of your children, back in those times, probably gave an impression of somebody who's actually being able to survive periods of hunger, cold etc. The one that has 'the fat reserves' (applying both on male and female). And the preference for curvy nowadays, may as well be the genetic leftover of those ancient times.

I'll go even further: if you go hand in hand with Charles Darwin, it would be more natural and logic to long for curvy partner, rather than for skinny one. That in fact is not so, is a peer pressure flowing out of social 'deviations' of today, as eatingwelsh has already explained above.

my 5 cents

I don't remember a time when I didn't have the attraction