Velvetty wrote:
But is it possible to feel so strongly about another person? I mean, I really fancy him!!! How can I? Does that make me bad? I wonder if it is because I met my hubby when I was 17... Maybe I just revel in the attention from this extremely sexy man, so different from my hb as well , muscled for a start!! But holland is another country. And I will never leave my family. Just infatuation I guess.... Thanks everyone!!
The thing with online contacts is that unconsciously you tend to idealize the other person. When I was on a dating site, I have fallen head over heels for some women, but then when we actually met, all the magic was gone. For various reasons, people can be a lot different online than in real life. That is why I recommend that people actually meet each other once they have established that there is a mutual interest, rather than talking online for many more months.
Back to your post: maybe you are idealizing this man because he has some qualities that you miss in your husband? Have you tried to discuss some of these things you miss with him? Maybe he would love to touch your curves more, but is affraid to do so because he thinks you are too self conscious about your curvy parts?