THIS. I have to concur with the16th6toothson. Having a shy personality in general sucks (especially at school, work, or in public when your having a group presentation) but even more so when trying to meet girls in public whether thin or fat. I think part of my problem is I don't get out enough to begin with anyways. When your a big computer nerd who spends most of his time indoors working on his system or fixing something or other it doesn't leave that much time for socializing. Even worse most of my friends are computer nerds as well so it becomes real difficult to meet many new people. By the time the end of the day rolls around and your tired from work, school, etc, as your on the way home the last thing your thinking about is interacting with others; it's kind of a "let me stay in my bubble mentality". I suggest to my friends that we go out and do more but most of them never want to.
the16th6toothson wrote:
too many variables and x factors here to give a solid study answer.
i will say though, that i am the type that if someone is lookin' EXTRA spectacular, if its remarkable hair, impeccable fashion sense, a sweet swagger, an obvious abundance of confidence or sometimes maybe even just a rockin' handbag i will tell them.
someone deserves to be told if they look totally KILLER - even if they get told often anyway!
but it's taken me all of these years to be comfortable in my own skin to be that forward.
think of your average (key word-AVERAGE) early 20's FA who maybe at most has kissed a girl who's "not skinny", who has ALWAYS had a group of friends who made fun of the fat girls who and who still can't even be Mr Cool...Dr Martini Von PerfectTeeth around a gal who's 160, let alone one who might be what he desires at *shrug* i dunno 320
Now say Miss 320 AllAboutLookingFANTASTICBEYONDCOMPREHENSION walks past him at the local mall.
he ain't gonna ask for her number
he's going to stare in disbelief and WISH he knew what to even say.
i was that guy 10 years ago.
we/they are out there. but unfortunately most of them are still in a stage of shellshock and will be for a little while still.
Not sure whether you will find many open FAs though. For what it is worth, the Italian stereotype of beauty is a blond, small-waisted, big-busted bimbo. Their ex-prime minister was "leading" by example... 
