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I like all this deep stuff and agree with Ninjabread Girl. I therefore, consider my children very lucky. A good sense of humour is paramount too though.

Wow.. lots of deep and thoughtful replies to this already.

I do sympathise Jake, and have felt the same on occassion. But as others here have said, personality counts for so much, just keep positive

You've already taken a positive step by joining a fat positive community like this one, so who knows what might be around the corner

Looking at the personals here, there are quite a few girls with no weight or high weight preference.. so stick at it!

On a related note (and somewhat tongue in cheek - I hope not to offend), if you were actually interested in losing weight maybe a feedee girl would interesting in helping you by eating your food for you. As they got bigger, you'd get trimmer and it's kind of win win - hehe

Just finished reading this and it sounds interesting. Ninja you say the mothers have the ability to "warp" a child's personality, exactly what do you mean? Like giving them psychological issues? You think that perhaps it's always the father that bestows upon young men their sense of masculinity? Or perhaps do men garner it more from doing activities together considered more masculine? That thought has always made me curious. I never really had the greatest relationship with either my real Dad or Stepdad but still the same, I'd say I participated and enjoyed all the normal activities guys enjoyed in their youth. However I can definitely see the need of one needing to pull away from one's mother. I love my Mom but she definitely was waaay overprotective of me even into adulthood. I suppose if one can even see it then it must be bad.

Biggjake I think Ninja nailed it. Just be confident and I'm sure you'll do fine. I don't know what everyone else thought but from looking at the number of females who claim to be feeders in the profiles area I don't buy the notion there is an intrinsic lack of FFAs. I've come across several dozen on the site. But yes confidence is key.

For most of their history community like Fat Acceptance, Fat Admiration and Feminism have been very apathetic of the experiences and issues of fat men.

Even today on the online fat communities you will find more people down playing fat male issues than people giving support to fat men.

Things are slow to change

William

I think that women get the extremes on both ends of the spectrum. If they are what society approves of they get more positive attention than men. If they are what society does not approve they get more negative attention than men.

What seems to get lost in Fat Acceptance is the fact that fat men do experience a good deal of fat bias

Stereotypes are never very helpful.

Although I'm not sure this will be true for all situations, i do believe that women have to fight harder for their position in the world.

back to the original topic:
Personally i think there are several things of importance that one looks for in a (not necessary monogamous) relationship. These are

Power/Money
Physique/Attractiveness
Personality/status
related Fetish

And the importance of these varies from person to person. If you don't fall into any of these categories for another person then your out of luck.
Guys will more often seek a partner that they find physically attractive or matches their fetish, while women are more attracted to personality and or power. But this will vary from person to person of course

These factors determine how good some one is on the 'market'. And if you don't have market value, well who said life is fair. The key point is knowing what your value is, and how it relates to what others want.

And in this point if your a fat guy and no one that is on the market has a high value for fat guys, then yes, you're effectively screwed.