Cupkake hit it here. The feeder-feedee relationship is a two-way journey. As a feeder who has fed many women over the years, I admit that have sometimes fallen into the one-sided aspect of feeding. While I always respected the woman and we had so much more going on, I think it was the distance and sporadic visits that drove my desire to feed and fatten into hyperdrive; hurry up and feed and fatten b/c when will we see each other again?
I think the stability of a same-city relationship helps calms both parties down, makes it more like, well, a real relationship. There is nothing more sensual, secure, intimate, sexy, erotic, comforting and loving--not to mention seductive--than a day-to-day feeder-feeder relationship. All relationships boil down to the same things: Mutual respect, desire, love, passion, flexibility, humor, and just plain liking the other person enough to hang out with each other day after day.
Now, where is she?
12 years