Eh, eh, calm down, calm down!
If he'd said, "I found this, thought it was good, worth a read" that would have been fine.
Sethman I guess what they're getting at is 1. most men with any empathy or social skills shouldn't need this because fat girls are just like tall girls or girls who like books or girls who are funny. They're just humans, and needing a guide as to how to interact with them suggests they are odd or difficult or a special beast that you have to treat differently. 2. it just slightly makes me wince because if one were being cynical one might think you were recommending the guide in the blog because if you have no success with women generally it's time to try "a tactic" on them, rather than just... being a normal person who interacts with people they like. 3. The person who called you a creep might have thought you were sharing a methodology (I'm thinking The Game by Neil Strauss) to pick up women? Not sure.
I dunno, I'm kinda guessing because, use of the term "lovely ladies" (*puke*) aside, I don't really get why you're getting haters here. I'm not saying you have to call us "wimmin" and slam doors in our faces but yeah, "lovely ladies" is a tad old-fashioned and smacks of outmoded gender roles blah blah. Or something.
But on the whole it's a good recommendation because although I agree that fat girls are just girls, it IS a minefield because fatness throws up so many issues for so many people. Fat girls ARE more likely to be sensitive about their appearance/hyper-aware of their weight as an issue because of the way society treats fat (especially fat women), and to assume you are taking the p*ss if you approach them, simply because that's what might have happened to them in the past. So yeah I think your post is useful because sometimes I imagine it's hard to work out the best approach when there are conflicting pressures. You might feel you shouldn't have to mention their weight because, frankly, it shouldn't have to be an issue, but your instinct might be that you want to tell them immediately that you love the fact they're fat in order to somehow... reassure them you're not bogus.
I think it IS a tricky area and the blog is useful reading. However - to be fair an hour spent perusing these forums would probably have told you the same stuff and I note you say you've already said things like what appears in the blog before - so yeah, I guess that's why another person thought it was patronising.
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