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Hey all, after reading a bunch of people today saying and how its valintines day yet alone xD. Just wanted to understand stuff bit better.

For me I'm 21 years old going be 22, just moved out trying find work, to another state.

A lot of girls that I know, especially where I was from, New York. Felt like girls went to the guys who had six pack abs, and had model look. But I don't have any of that. But whats worst is that I'm not fat enough for those girls who like those guys to be like interested if their out there.

For me personally I don't have a good self body image at all. Older friends in their like 30's n 40's and family friends keep telling me that I'm a good looking guy a great huger, but I don't believe them, when most of my friends are dating, or marrying and I'm still single. Sad to say the last few girls I *kinda dated* just went back to their ex after a time behind my back and just stopped talking to me.

For me I'm 6ft 6ft1" and weigh around 210-217. Big boned and wide shoulders, a V body. So loosing weight is like impossible, or just really difficult, because of my musclur body and cause I'm a big guy.

when i get depressed I eat, cause i enjoy eating, especially the full feeling. But I feel sad because feel like girls won't really look at me. Even though I fantaised about being HUGE, I would like to know the feeling but don't like the idea of seeing myself that fat.

I don't know what to classify myself cause I'm not fat nor skinny. Chubby possibly. Don't have stomach unless I eat.
Other day I went to a pizza buffet with some friends only few, sad to say no girls for dating, but i ate and enjoyed felt great. I can gain weight if I over eat all the time and have junk, but other half of me doesn't let me go too far.

I'm curious if I'm only one that is having same problem or is not skinny and not fat, and how to deal with it.

It takes me a lot longer when I work out compared to another to see results and seem like working out doesn't help me lose weight. But i love food to stop eatting what I want.

Sry for long rant but wondering what you all think. I don't always post.

Thank you.

1st off welcome to FF.1 thing you need to do is forget what others think.You're the 1 who has to be happy with yourself.All others count after you.Confidence in yourself will show thru.If you aren't happy with yourself others can see this no matter how hard you try to hide it.Classification means nothing.Take your time & you'll eventually see yourself as you want to be.

Thank you for reading and writing back. Guess my next thing is more of how can I get more confidence or least be happy how I am? I know the work is on me to do and such, but my brain doesn't shut off at times. How did you guys get acceptence to yourself?

Start small.Look at yourself in a full length mirror.examine the changes you see in yourself as you grow.think of what changes you see & how they effect you.

Well I mean I would like to try to be happy the way I am now, not with loosing weight or gaining it.

everyone is perfect anf gorgeous to someone. Never ever compare yourself to anyone you are unique no one in this world like you. Stop being so hard on yourself forget all of it and stop looking for love it just finds you as long as you are open to it :-)