This will probably make me very unpopular, but I just had to say it. Read through the above posts and tell me if I missed anything, but it seems to me that everyone is telling the OP how to make his wife happy. What about the OP? Why is this happiness thing so one sided? Why should he make all the effort and be the one to try to change his expectations, change his ideas about what he likes, freaking hypnotize himself into thinking his wife is still sexy, change himself, change himself, change himself. Do we see a pattern here? He deserves some consideration as well. His wife made a one sided decision that affected their relationship. There are consequences to every decision we make. She should also be thinking about what makes HIM happy. If she can't do that, then she needs to tell him that she is too wrapped up in her own needs and desires to give him what he wants. Then they will both have some big decisions to make.
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