clive2007 wrote:
There's an interesting thread going on in the shoutbox regarding feeding, its sexual connotations and whether or not its considered cheating if you engage in a feeder type relationship if its with someone who is not your husband or not your wife as the case may be.
So is it?
I'm on the fence about it if the truth be known. I guess it depends if one or the other or both consider it sexual. How is that defined? After all its not "sex" yet if you get your jollies by feeding someone, or you are the one being fed, its essentially the same in concept, not by act, as being flirtatious with someone. The actual act of feeding by definition is not sexual - its just the way you react to it. Like someone brushes a feather across the nape of your neck or blows in your ear - its the reaction to that which sets you off or not.
It also depends a lot on what is actually considered "cheating"
Call me old school if you will, but in my book, cheating is occurring if you are having physical sexual relations with someone who is not your spouse....so if that follows on from feeding, well then yes its cheating - but only because sex followed on. There are some who will say that even carrying on a conversation of a flirtatious kind be it online or in real life is technically cheating.....although that one I am not on the fence about and would dispute.
If the act of feeding could be considered cheating......is that in fact any different to going out for a drink or a meal with someone who is not your wife or husband?
Having said all that regardless of the fact that if you are the one interesting in feeding, or the one wanting to be fed.......when the issue comes up, does anyone actually approach their other half and ask them if its something they would be interested in pursuing as a couple rather than trying to find someone outside of the bedroom as it were?
Clive
There's an interesting thread going on in the shoutbox regarding feeding, its sexual connotations and whether or not its considered cheating if you engage in a feeder type relationship if its with someone who is not your husband or not your wife as the case may be.
So is it?
I'm on the fence about it if the truth be known. I guess it depends if one or the other or both consider it sexual. How is that defined? After all its not "sex" yet if you get your jollies by feeding someone, or you are the one being fed, its essentially the same in concept, not by act, as being flirtatious with someone. The actual act of feeding by definition is not sexual - its just the way you react to it. Like someone brushes a feather across the nape of your neck or blows in your ear - its the reaction to that which sets you off or not.
It also depends a lot on what is actually considered "cheating"
Call me old school if you will, but in my book, cheating is occurring if you are having physical sexual relations with someone who is not your spouse....so if that follows on from feeding, well then yes its cheating - but only because sex followed on. There are some who will say that even carrying on a conversation of a flirtatious kind be it online or in real life is technically cheating.....although that one I am not on the fence about and would dispute.
If the act of feeding could be considered cheating......is that in fact any different to going out for a drink or a meal with someone who is not your wife or husband?
Having said all that regardless of the fact that if you are the one interesting in feeding, or the one wanting to be fed.......when the issue comes up, does anyone actually approach their other half and ask them if its something they would be interested in pursuing as a couple rather than trying to find someone outside of the bedroom as it were?
Clive
For those of us who have a fetish/paraphilia about feeding/weight gain/fat etc, quite often those activities/thoughts are just as much or even more of a trigger to arousal than conventional sex. Doing anything or being willingly on the receiving end of something that causes sexual arousal is a sexual act by definition.
So whilst spooning cake into someone/rubbing their tummy/eating for them/watching them eat whilst encouraging them wouldn't seem to Mr and Mrs Vanilla a sexual act any more than scratching your elbow, it may well be for someone from this community. It might not fall into the definition of sexual intercourse in the conventional/legal/dictionary sense but clearly if it's intended to be sexually exciting for both of you then yes, I'd say it would be considered cheating.
I think falling back on "but we didn't have sex" would be at the very least disingenuous.
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