Gaining

My wife has been drinking "green Tea" for around a month now. When I first saw it in the fridge I was like Ok she is trying to lose weight (Damn). I have not brought anything up to her but I have seen some weight loss on her after about a month of drinking plenty of it, nothing dramatic but even 5-7 Lbs. is devastating in my eyes.

I of course was wanting her to gain weight not lose and here it goes in a terrible direction.

The very thought of her getting thinner depresses me, not only because she look's so much better and healthy when she gains weight, but I feel a sense of betrayal almost when she is trying to lose weight. I know it's weird but I totally feel disattatched and betrayed.

Just when I was hoping she would pack on 10-15 Lbs. before bikini season and I wouldn't even be able to take my hands off of her and dream about her all the time.

Any guy feel the same way about this?

Anyone know how much potentially she could lose if she keeps drinking this stuff? I have noticed it definitely has curbed her appetite, because she hardly snacks and eats considerably less during meals.

How fast can her weight come back on if she stops drinking it?

I am so frustrated and I hate the feeling of not even being connected to her through this!

Should I talk to her about it, and if so, how should I approach? She know's I have always wanted her to gain weight but I never bring it up anymore.

Dieting slows the metabolism. Green tea doesn't work anyway. It is very likely she will regain more than she loses.

I disagree about discussing it with her. Let nature take its course.

I hope this will happen! Thanks for your input.

I wouldn't call myself a feeder! In fact I like it when my wife gains weight by herself from good eating and over indulging with great meals I take her out to, not to mention snacking and eating desserts. I simply at various times make sure there is enough good food around in the house to allow her to snack.

To top it off I have like three of my close friends always complaining to me that their wives keep getting fatter and fatter and that they need to lose weight. All I wish for is my wife to gain that weight, crazy to think about.

Trust me, any weight my wife gains she just keeps looking hotter and hotter.

This. End of.

I have read and understand all your insight and points. Obviously there are many variables and every situation is different even though the main principle is very general and applies simply.

When I was your age unfortunately I had No knowledge of anyone with the same fetish of Weight gain. Not to mention the Internet was not as user friendly as now, or possibly not as much activity. So needless to say I had no idea anyone else liked what I liked with regard to Fat and Weight gain. I simply encountered in my past relationships and with my wife when we were dating that we would eat together all the time and my partners would start to gain some weight and I would tell them how great they looked and in only a few cases tell them that I liked them curvier and I wouldn't mind if they gained more weight. Mind you these were serious relationships with Girlfriends for at least 3 years or more. One of my Girlfriends and my Wife both had a point in their lives in the past were they were heavier so I kind of imagined that would happen again and I would certainly be fine with that.

So when I met my Wife as we were dating I was in love, not only for her physically but for many other factors: Personality, how she carried herself, her caring nature, and maturity. Also, I never knew there would be a girl/women that was turned on by weight gain like me. Many years later I realize their are women that have this same fetish, albeit kind of rare to find a women that you connect on all levels and love and that is into this Fetish.

Yes, it would definitely be much much much easier if my Wife was into this Fetish but she isn't. But I have always imagined that she would really gain a lot of weight and eventually be fine with it with all the love and attention I give her. With that said and I don't know if anyone else can relate to this or has experienced this but when she is heavier she is much more relaxed, softer, gentle and more vulnerable. Now she has never been one to discuss her weight gain a lot but when she is heavier she will start to joke around a bit for example while eating a bag of chocolates she will say something like "well I guess finishing the last of these isn't going to make me any fatter than I already am" . Which obviously I love hearing so I relish in the moments that she would say things like while lying down in bed next to me as she groans "wow, it's hard moving all this extra weight around, Your wife is getting Fat". Also she is more cuddly and less objective of others. When she get's thinner she is less sensitive and has a tendency to comment on others about their weight. She will mention things like "she is getting really big and unhealthy" , so its almost like she changes as a person also.

A perfect example of how different her attitude and reactions are when she is thinner. Her friend gained 20+ Lbs. and I thought she looked great and my wife said "she really needs to get her weight under control, she is getting really big" as opposed to when my wife is heavier she has commented before when the same girl gained around the same amount she said after I commented to my wife "she tends to go up and down a bit but she still look's good I think." So her outlook is totally different. I feel mainstream society has a lot to do with her perception of weight not only on her but others as well.

So, I agree with what you said but I can't say that I feel any different not to mention I want my cuddly, gentler and vulnerable wife back with the weight she one had who doesn't eat like a bird and actually enjoy's eating some great meals not to mention all the desserts she use to enjoy with a passion.

Sorry so long-

what brand of green tee?
pleas don't hate me.
I have a friend that gained 50 lb last year.
She really desperately wants to lose weight.
I like seeing her happy more than I like seeing Her fat.

Something like Pomegranite Green Tea

I appreciate the last two posts....Thank you!

Simply stating my feeling's which is why I would imagine people come to this board as well as support with people who have the same particular fetish/ kink etc.

You should absolutely discuss it with her. In a non-pushy way of course. Just tell her your preferences but don't make a big deal out of it.

Who knows, maybe she's just trying to lose weight to please YOU?

My own case: I married an average-sized woman. She knew about my preferences before we got married, but I'd never made a big deal out of them. Later on she gained weight, and then lost weight, but she voluntarily kept her weight a little higher than she wanted for my sake.

I probably shouldn't give marriage advice since my own marriage ultimately failed, but I do know that people have to compromise in marriage. But it's hard to compromise unless both parties have all the pertinent facts.