Gaining

From chatting with feedees in this situation, it seems that they either:

1. Eat what they want in front of their kids and say "no, the doughnuts are for Mommy" and make the kids eat healthy;

2. Hide their overeating;

3. Share the fattening goodies with the kids and let them eat all they want. They usually have very fat kids.

I personally disapprove of #3.

I'm married sans kids. My wife knows, but does not participate. We talked about it, and it's really not her thing. Bummer, but eh, if you love someone, right?

When I do eat the good stuff, it's almost always in private, eg: when I'm commuting, and it's just me.

I usually advise people to hold off on gaining (or feeding someone else) until they're not dependent on their parents. If the parents disapprove, it can be stressful on everyone involved. Why do it if you can't even enjoy it?

Of course many people haven't heard this advice and many don't follow it even if they have.

Many feedees have gained while living with their parents. The parents usually express concern or active disapproval, but often it's not enough to matter to the feedee in question.

I haven't chatted with anyone who actually sought their parents' approval or support, but I believe there were one or two mentioned on thegaininglife.tumblr.com/. Sorry I can't remember the particular cases. fatfanplus would know.

If I was a parent myself in this scenario (where the kid sought my approval) I'd try to get my kid to wait until he or she was at least 18. If the kid refused I wouldn't be encouraging but would be tolerant, especially if they kept up on schoolwork and whatever else they needed to do in this very critical phase of life.

If the kid was VERY young, under 13 say, I'd actively discourage any gaining.

But in none of these scenarios would I be a hypocrite and guilt trip them for having the fetish in the first place.

There's nothing wrong with having the fetish, but there are wrong ways of expressing the fetish.

I realize I still haven't completely answered this.

There's still the question of what someone should do if (contrary to my advice!) they decide to gain while still with their parents. Should they seek their parents approval or support in such a case?

Actually this is a tricky question, because they might have to confront their parents on this whether they want to or not.

I don't have a good answer on this one.

Anyone else?

Everybody's different, but some feedees really do eat a lot.