I agree but I would of like it if the girl in question could of been given the chance to say why she felt uncomfortable after gaining the weight.
How did peoples perceptions of her change, how did their attitudes towards her change and was this the reason why she felt uncomfortable. If it was then, then is it about her feeling that she needed to lose to fit in with others ideals, which is wrong. The advise there would be you don't need to live by other peoples ideals and opinions only your own. Therefore it is about helping her to accept who she has become and to be happy with it. If it was because she didn't like it for her own reasons ok good luck with it.
I love the idea of a bit if sociology here because it helps me understand people and there feelings more. My main would be to know more about why a girl decides to gain weight, ie is it a love of food, a love of the idea of being fat, are you doing this for yourself or for your other half, has there been something that's happened in your life to make you want to become fat. That is why the forum side is so great as it gives you this insight.
As with if you are in conversation via message or chat room with a female and they stop talking to you or messaging you for what ever reason, don't hound them why but just accept it and move on. If they decide to talk to you in the future then just accept them back as a friend and be grateful.
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