amandany13 wrote:
but i DO feel like putting on weight was the worst thing i could have done because it was the first time he ever was able to see his fantasy play out in real life. i was the first GF that he ever shared his true desires with. like i said, the flood gates were opened.... i think it ruined my relationship and it most definitely crushed my self esteem and broke the hearts of a few girls from this site....
Putting on weight is not what ruined your relationship, his behavior did! You didn't open the gates, I am sure he was already doing this before you gained the weight. He is a closet FA who used a slim, good looking girl like yourself to put up a front towards friends and family. My only advice would be to dump him.