Believe it or not I'm a feminist, but I've mostly (not completely!) given up on the terminological turnpikes. E.g., I remember when you couldn't call an 18-year-old woman a "girl" let alone a "chick".
And of course being "Dr. Feeder" puts me on a lot of incorrect lists! So I just try to express what I think as best I can.
Sorry if I offended anyone!