Submission and domination

Ciara317 wrote:
I always tease my boyfriend about how big he is, the degree of it varies on the situation. He's tall, aside from being heavier, so I'll tease him about being a greedy or fat giant and kind of 'guilting' him when he eats too much. Sometimes he'll playfully threaten to 'eat' me if I don't bring him more food or rub his shoulders or his belly, play with his hair etc.

I was nervous about teasing him at first, especially since he seemed kind of self conscious about his size in general but one day I just let something slip out in the height of the moment and he rolled with it, no problem. Now when I comment on his size, and tease him about what a 'mean giant' he is, he gets this look in his eyes like 'yes I am'.

His personality is usually very sweet and kind, he can actually even be very soft spoken at times which catches people off guard, so I think he enjoys the role reversal and being the 'bad guy'.

When we're in public our teasing is much more playful and can fly under the radar as us just being goofy and joking with each other, like to get his attention I always poke his belly. I guess it all depends on how you're playing, but the little guilt trips seem to work well with us.

FemaleFatAdmirer wrote:
With a weight gain like your BF has experienced, people are going to notice, even if you're not doing "public humiliation." Make sure he knows they notice. Tell him that a mutual friend commented to you about his weight gain. When a stranger stares at BF's belly and looks away in disgust, tell your BF about it after you are out of the situation and there's nothing he can do about it.

Make some before and after pictures of his gain.

Ask him about his early experiences with fat, for example were his fat relatives told to avoid eating certain foods, or kids at school bullied using certain fat slurs. Roleplay those situations from his childhood with him in the role of the fat person.

If you have a habit of doing things like gently squeezing his shoulder and saying I love you whenever you walk past him. Replace that sometimes with squeezing his moob and saying dam you're fat, so he never knows which one to expect.