I have been there with my wife many times even when she was my girlfriend way back when.
It sucks....but I have come to realize that the older I have become ....even though they complain about the weight (in my wive's case) that they have gained ...that sometimes that maybe a just a frustrating moment or them venting. For example they just tried on some clothes that they can't fit into anymore or they just happened to weigh themselves and were shocked or even just had a bad day feeling extra Fat.
If there is a way to turn it into a warm moment and let them know that you care and love them more than anything....not only in a sexual way (Like I tend to do when she starts looking nice and fat and is so irresistable to me) but just soft and tender (should be easier for you). I know you don't want him to feel bad about himself but still I have learned that they seem to get over it fairly fast. In the past when my wife complained about her getting Fat I would stop our eating patterns together and try and help her in her frustrating rant of gaining weight.....she would lose weight and seem even unhappier and I certainly was unhappier and even slightly less atracted to her physically (sorry....just telling the truth). In the last several years when she complains about how Fat she has gotten.... I comfort her and assure her she is not Fat (because she isn't even close to Fat to me) and that I love her and make sure she has plenty of things she loves to eat. She generally forgets about this and after one of these episodes has actually thanked me for picking up at the store an obscene amount of all her fattening treats she loves. I mean if she were mad that I was making it hard for her if she was actually trying to diet she would say something I would think....not Thank me. So they vent for a bit and then with your love figure they will just take the easy road and enjoy themselves.
Also, it could be the initial shock for your boyfriend of how he has changed. Someday you will look back and think to yourself ....wow, he was so concerned about weighing 170/180 Lbs. and now he doesn't even complain and he is 220 Lbs with a huge Fat gut.
Let me know if this helps your thought process any....and keep us posted how it goes.
It sucks....but I have come to realize that the older I have become ....even though they complain about the weight (in my wive's case) that they have gained ...that sometimes that maybe a just a frustrating moment or them venting. For example they just tried on some clothes that they can't fit into anymore or they just happened to weigh themselves and were shocked or even just had a bad day feeling extra Fat.
If there is a way to turn it into a warm moment and let them know that you care and love them more than anything....not only in a sexual way (Like I tend to do when she starts looking nice and fat and is so irresistable to me) but just soft and tender (should be easier for you). I know you don't want him to feel bad about himself but still I have learned that they seem to get over it fairly fast. In the past when my wife complained about her getting Fat I would stop our eating patterns together and try and help her in her frustrating rant of gaining weight.....she would lose weight and seem even unhappier and I certainly was unhappier and even slightly less atracted to her physically (sorry....just telling the truth). In the last several years when she complains about how Fat she has gotten.... I comfort her and assure her she is not Fat (because she isn't even close to Fat to me) and that I love her and make sure she has plenty of things she loves to eat. She generally forgets about this and after one of these episodes has actually thanked me for picking up at the store an obscene amount of all her fattening treats she loves. I mean if she were mad that I was making it hard for her if she was actually trying to diet she would say something I would think....not Thank me. So they vent for a bit and then with your love figure they will just take the easy road and enjoy themselves.
Also, it could be the initial shock for your boyfriend of how he has changed. Someday you will look back and think to yourself ....wow, he was so concerned about weighing 170/180 Lbs. and now he doesn't even complain and he is 220 Lbs with a huge Fat gut.
Let me know if this helps your thought process any....and keep us posted how it goes.
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