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I'm in the same boat, it's something I wish I could change. Or at least I wish I had more kinks/fetishes to be interested in 😞

I wouldn't say ruined, but it does make things more difficult. But everyone has a fettish when we get down to it. Some guys like breasts, others like feet, some like bellies. Its largely what society deems acceptable and "normal" to some extent this whole fetish is labeled a "fetish" is because of silly standards. I try not to let it get me down.

Anyway..... I keep thinking back to how sexually my last relationship tapered in some degree, because of my fetish. My gf was gaining some weight, and she was looking even better as she gained more. Then she felt she was fat and lost all of it and she was VERY skinny. She was;t un attractive but whenever I told her she looked better with some weight she thought I was a gross disgusting person for thinking that. And while she was far from overweight, said I just liked "fat girls".

Now our fetish didn't end or really ruin our relationship much, what did was infidelity and lies. But it is hard some times. I learned to put it aside and at the time, just the thought of her and being in love with her was more than enough get me off, but having her 100% physically how I would have liked on her end would have been nice. I stated trim and fit for her, why could she not gain 20lbs for me? Its a funny double standard.

/rant hah

I can definitely relate and agree. I've made the same wish myself numerous times.

I agree totally with this comment

Here is someone who really had their life ruined. She met a feeder and went from 200 something to 600 something. Her parents did not approve and let her know that, Her feeder left her when she couldn't gain anymore to find another feedee. She was unable to care for herself and had to move back with her parents who kept up with the "I told you so." She decided to have weight loss surgery, which is very risky. She died from it.

Better to have loved and lost, then not to have loved at all.

low key yes
I genuinely love my life but I definitely think it would have been easier/happier if I had not been born with a weird fetish, but then again who knows I may have been born with a worse fetish so I don't dwell on it.

Like any fetish outside the mainstream, a consequence is that it limits the dating pool. As a very tall cis woman (6'2 on a short day), my choices are already limited. It seems like they either fetishize my height, or are not into this community. I just want to meet a nice normal guy who loves me for me. So tired of creepers.

Growing up, I always liked tall women. I'm 5'9", so I have been considered average. It isn't a kink, it's just something I find attractive. But most tall women want men who are as tall as they are, and some want men who are at least a few inches taller. But since it was rare that a tall woman would date me, I always ended up with someone shorter. It just seems strange that most people are open to dating any race, religion, etc., but refuse to date a certain height. Because men do not have hang ups about height, many tall men date short women, and that leaves tall women with less tall men to date.

Don't EVER get gastric bypass surgery--you will not be able to enjoy fried foods, sugary desserts, or carbonated beverages even in small quantities--a fate worse than death! Thank GOD I did not have this hideous surgery; I got the same results from the wonderful book and CD "I Can Make You Thin" by Paul Mckenna. (The tone compassionate, and he's got a Ph. D., he just doesn't go by "Dr." You are encouraged to eat exactly the foods you want, you are hypnotized to eat small portions. Don't knock hypnosis for weight loss until you've tried it--it works! This book and CD are out of print, but easily available on Amazon.com. It worked for 6 million ppl who wanted to be thin. It helped me get pretty trim before I realized that I love being a BBW.