My advice before you start ask yourself: is this what I really want? I'm I financially ready ( lot of food, new clothes. I'm I dependent on a spouse or parents that will cut me off to lose weight?) I'm in a good place? (your not in the military or firefighter that will derail your gaining efforts and possible career) How do I plan to respond when co workers/friends/family start noticing? I'm I ready to embrace life as a fat person ?
fatsteve:
My experience has been a little different. I had a burning desire to be fat. I do not know where it came from. I tried to restist it and for a while I succeeded. I thought that it was a passing phase that came with puberty/ I thought that I had overcome it but it came back stronger and stronger. I knew I had to become fat as I could not live without it. So when I started putting on weight at school, the critical comments may have been intended to hurt but secretly they were an encouragement. I was so happy underneath when someone called me "Fatso". By the time my mum started really to become worried about my weight it was a little late. Certainly family events are when I am most likely to receive comments about how much weight I have put on. This is because relatives have not seen me for a while. Friends, even ones who knew me when I was thin at school, seem to have forgot and think that I was always plump. By the time I started work I was already obese and in most people's minds I was already a "fat person". So becoming much fatter over the years hasn't caused so much comment. Having a compusion to be fat has meant that the other questions californiabay raises were not relevant to me. I had to find the money to eat as much as I could. It was not an optiom not to over-eat. I bought as few clothes as I could because I knew I would grow out of them. I deliberately choose a sedentary job as I knew I would be mordidly obese. I am happiset among people with weight issues. I have embracd the life style that comes with being very fat and the health issues that come with it. For me there are no real cons to being fat.
If you are not sure whether to set out to become fat, you are probably not ready to do so.
Good luck too!
This was a very interesting post and twist to the pro and cons. I totally agree with you as far as the shock from people or comments being from people that knew from thinner to Fat......but after a while as time went on you said people never remembered you being skinny and only Fat and it wasn't a big deal if you kept getting bigger. It seem's totally obvious but this is a huge thing for the mind to get around. Like you said relatives or friends that have not seen you for a long while you can almost see it on their face when you greet or meet up with them (wow....someone got so Fat....right?) Also, once you get to a certain point of Fatness also....it's kind of more difficult to recognize the gradual extra10,20 even 30 Lbs. sometimes based on height and how you carry the weight.....unless for example you are in a bathing suit that is several sizes small based on all the new weight you gained and you are flowing out everywhere.
A related incident:
My wife has recently gained 25 lbs. in the last 6 months or so. My brother has seen her several times in that time frame.....say at least once a month. But be it certain clothing or lack of his previous acknowledgement or whatever I had never seen a sobering reaction like I saw the other day when he saw her. She was wearing a pair of her designer jeans (that she still squeezes into as to say she hasn't changed sizes) the type that is lower waisted and she clearly look's like they must have taken 15 minutes to put on along with a massive muffin top not only on her huge Love handles but her belly hangs out the front and jiggles slightly with every step. She has on a silk tank top that now is really tight and form fitting (although not meant to be) and has a tuff time containing everything she has going on from her huge breasts to her ample womanly new figure all over...allowing her Beautifully Tan Fat upper arms to strain the openings allowed to fit threw. As she came out and said Hi to him and his wife I saw a look of shock on his face and he greeted her while he stood their in amazement while his wife hugged and greeted her. I want to think he was thinking "wow, she look's so sexy and incredible" which may be what he was thinking but I also think he was in shock and couldn't believe how Fat my wife got.....even though her weight gain didn't happen overnight he must have assumed this. I am sure my brother and his wife's ride home after we had dinner together must have been discussing how much weight my wife has gained and how big she is now.
So, getting back to my thought here.....this part is a struggle for a lot when choosing to gain, accidentally gaining etc. I mean not that my wife is intentionally gaining or does she rea
