allgrownup:For me as as an enabler it’s simply a case of having to eat along, or at least get her going. So I’ve definitely gone up in weight. And then now when I look I think "well....that’s not bad.....I could see myself following her along"
Based on the theory where if you eat a lot, others around you will eat more too? That sometimes works.
If everyone has a huge piece of cake, it will seem normal for you to have one too.
That's another reason why I may like to gain more. So I can eat a lot more and indirectly get her to eat more too.
There's also the fact, or at least I've observed this, that in most couples where the woman is heavy, the man is usually heavy too. It will be easier to start a relationship with a fat woman or watch her gain weight if you are heavy.
Of course, even if the man is the lighter one, just being around all that delicious, yummy, and fattening food, you're gonna end up snacking and eating some.