Fat experiences

Funny:
The first time was on a train. We were traveling across midwest-america and one of the employees took me aside because I am skinny and I guess he needed to vent about all the fat people on the train.

I listened patiently, (I'm on a train. Where else can I go?), and then I must have come up with an excuse to leave and watched his jaw drop when I returned to my seat, arm wrapped around my now husband, the fattest man in the train car.

Darker side:
People usually don't say much. They look when we have to move a table because he doesn't fit in a booth, but that's about it. Being on a plane together is probably the last situation where some people feel they have a free license to be rude to someone just because of body size.

The denial responses are even better lol. When my wife had put on around 75lbs we had a party and she drunkenly asked three of her girlfriends huddled in the kitchen if they noticed her recent weight gain.

They looked her directly in the eyes and simultaneously said "Huh, NO. You look great!".

For a while it's only been my wife who has verbally noticed, with just a couple cute comments about my chub.

A couple weeks ago, one of my coworkers playfully punched me in the stomach though, and said something along the lines of "what's this? you're getting fat now too!"

I believe it was my nephew who I had not seen in a few years. When he saw me, he said "Gee, are you getting fat?"

Oh I love him so. I said "Yes, but don't tell anyone" and then he blabbed to everyone.

My mom said you better slow down eating so much every day your belly is quite massive and said should we get you some clothes since the dryers shrinking them lol and she’s been making so much more for dinner every night basically 2x as much as she used to and she barely eats most nights

Last year we moved about 4 hours away from where we lived before. I gained about 30lbs and had to go back for a doctor's appt. to get things finished up to transfer. Anyway, there is this lady that works at the doctor's. Very friendly. We chat often when I am there. But, she is definitely outspoken. Well, I go there and see her. The first words out of her mouth "You got fat!" lol I was a little taken aback. I mean, I knew I gained. But, didn't think it was that noticeable to be classified as fat. Maybe chubby, lol. Well, not to her! Second words out of her mouth. "Guess you've been eating good since you moved, ya got fat!" She held nothing back, lol. I sheepishly agreed with her and that was about it for the small talk, lol.

What was your reaction?

Mine is usually * You look like you've been enjoying life" Me: Oh yeah? Them: well you're certainly eating well.

“It’s time you stick to sports…”

Most people don’t say anything, but 90% recognize someone who has gained some weight.

I swear there must be more FA’s then we really know about to varying degrees because people are fast water with other people gaining weight like we are or at least they love talking behind their backs.

My wife has never really liked gaining weight but when she does she just tries to ignore it until she diets they extra weight off. She was always the plumpest of all her friends and when they all got pregnant she kept all the weight a lot longer (very much to my liking). One of her friends who is taller and always much skinnier lost all her baby weight after her three kids right away. Several years later after being done with her babies all of. Sudden started to pack on the lbs. and became fatter than my wife at the time. I remember going for a get together at her home and my wife couldn’t stop talking on the drive home about how much weight her friend continues to pile on. “Shwwew, she has gotten BIG! I thought the last time I saw her she would have lost some weight or slowed down but tonight was a shock seeing how heavy she has gotten”. I would say a few things like, “she isn’t that much bigger” just to here her go in and on with the weight gain talk. My wife then said “are you kidding me, she is huge, not to mention she out eats me these days, did you see how many pieces of cake and cookies she had when the deserts came out?” I guess my wife just liked relishing I. The fact she was now the skinnier of the two for the first time ever. My wife being 5’ 3” and around 180-200 lbs. at the time but even when she was 150-160 lbs. before being pregnant and her friend was 5’ 9” 120 lbs. after being pregnant three times was now pushing 230-250 lbs.

I think people love seeing others get fatter but they just don’t say it to their face as much as behind their back. I am sure with all of you here there have been many conversations about your extra lbs. behind your back. 😂❤️