Lifestyle tips

Anyone have tips to integrate feedist things into a vanilla relationship where the partner might be uncomfortable with gaining weight/isn't attracted to people who gain weight?

Yeah, break up and find someone who's into it. Don't be slimy.

Thanks for your insightful respone

My partner knows about my preferences and I'm asking on her behalf hot damn yall

I am experiencing something fairly similar. Started college about a year ago and I have been seeing this guy for sometime now. He’s gain a lot of weight since we have been together (not for me) but his weight gain was something I always kinda enjoyed and he knew that. He knows about my fetish but is not into it at all and is now trying to lose weight. I fully support him, but I want him to gain more and that makes me feel like a shitty person. I wish there was some kind of compromise where we can both kinda get what we want in this situation.

There is always a good way to find out. Joke about it, and see his reaction. If you are walking and see a BBW, say something like
, "I wonder what it is like to be that size." See his reaction

well i think the best think to do would be to talk about it. Speaking to significant others about personal fetishes it all ways hard. But i think if you trust him well. the conversation could be fitting. best of wishes!

If it's like, I'm willing to pretend to be fat during sexytimes but I don't want it to affect real life: padding.

If it's like, I'm willing to pretend to feed you in a humiliating fattening way but I don't want you to actually gain weight: roleplay but with the normal amounts of food you normally eat to maintain thinness.

If you really want to throw everything away for a fetish, that's insane.

You made your choice to get married and have kids. You shouldn't destroy lives on a "Maybe"

Seems to me you've kept the "Dream" of this a secret the whole time. Maybe you should talk to the one your with about it first

I swear the people on this site get more insane every year.

I didn't allow this fetish to dictate who I married. My wife was very skinny. I told her about being a feeder. She thought the whole thing was creepy and disgusting. She claimed she would NEVER get fat. And I left it at that - she's into things that I'm not.

But she's always been a huge foodie. And nature ran its course and here she is literally doubled her weight. She still can't get into the kink part of it. But that's OK.

I'm a firm believer that putting the bug in her ear about not caring about her weight initiated the self-fulfilling prophecy. And being a good winer and diner introducing someone to the joys of gluttony is not that hard of a thing to do in a loving natural way. Don't have to be all slimy and pushy about it.