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Zelda64   United States
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Okay so I am a gay male who happens to be 18. I get extremely turned on when a guy is chubby and has a nice belly. This arousal gets stronger if it involves the guy getting fatter. I also get turned on by guys who have a really nice butt so the feeder fetish does not need to be involved in order for me to be sexually attracted to people.

My concern is that I do not feel anything when I attempt to masturbate. Like I can feel turned on by other guys but, do not touch myself because it does not do anything for me. When people talk about having pleasure from touching themselves, I have no idea what that feels like. The only sexual pleasure I do feel is when I see a guy who is extremely sexually attractive. I also do not get aroused when Imagine having sex with another person. When I am aroused by another guy, I get the urge to be physical with him but, the act of sex just feels taboo to me. Its like my body wants to have sex but, can't grasp with the concept if that makes sense. This is why Watching porn has never gotten me aroused and does nothing for me.

So I am just worried if that when I do finally have sex for the first time (I'm a virgin) is that I won't know what to do and how to make my body feel good, and if I can even feel that stimulation/pleasure everyone talks about. I know I am not asexual because I find guys sexually attractive but, I just do not feel pleasure from watching porn, masturbating, or picture having sex with someone else.

I guess what I am asking is that is it normal to not masturbate and get turned on by porn?
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Is this weird? am i normal?

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Zelda64   United States
Joined 6 years
Zelda64:
I know I am not asexual because I find guys sexually attractive

becomingoverweight:
Asexuals can do that too.


okay im confused.. I know im not asexual because I really want to know what sex feels like and I have sexual attraction with and without this fetish. I have a desire to be intimate beyond sensually like I want to experiment but that idea is taboo to me because I have not experienced sex yet. I guess my body is just trying to figure out something it havent felt yet. I guess what I am asking is what being asexual means to you? I have asks many asexuals on different forums and a friend I have in real life about being asexual and none of them think I am because I get turned on by people but just feel weird about sex but, I think this is because I haven't done it yet.
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Is this weird? am i normal?

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Zelda64   United States
Joined 6 years
Zelda64:
I know I am not asexual because I find guys sexually attractive

becomingoverweight:
Asexuals can do that too.


i thought the definition of asexual was lacking sexual attraction. like some sexual people just don't like sex. They will still get turned on but not like the actual practice of sex. That does not make them asexual. So im confused on how asexuals can get turned on sexually by other people.
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Is this weird? am i normal?

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Zelda64   United States
Joined 6 years
Zelda64:
Okay so I am a gay male who happens to be 18. I get extremely turned on when a guy is chubby and has a nice belly. This arousal gets stronger if it involves the guy getting fatter. I also get turned on by guys who have a really nice butt so the feeder fetish does not need to be involved in order for me to be sexually attracted to people.

What do you think about all this. Does it sound like im asexual? I dont think I am but im not 100% sure.

My concern is that I do not feel anything when I attempt to masturbate. Like I can feel turned on by other guys but, do not touch myself because it does not do anything for me. When people talk about having pleasure from touching themselves, I have no idea what that feels like. The only sexual pleasure I do feel is when I see a guy who is extremely sexually attractive. I also do not get aroused when Imagine having sex with another person. When I am aroused by another guy, I get the urge to be physical with him but, the act of sex just feels taboo to me. Its like my body wants to have sex but, can't grasp with the concept if that makes sense. This is why Watching porn has never gotten me aroused and does nothing for me.

So I am just worried if that when I do finally have sex for the first time (I'm a virgin) is that I won't know what to do and how to make my body feel good, and if I can even feel that stimulation/pleasure everyone talks about. I know I am not asexual because I find guys sexually attractive but, I just do not feel pleasure from watching porn, masturbating, or picture having sex with someone else.

I guess what I am asking is that is it normal to not masturbate and get turned on by porn?

Maleste:
I'm a girl and I have the same 'issues'...



What do you think about all of it? Does it sound like im asexual?
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Is this weird? am i normal?

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Zelda64   United States
Joined 6 years
other people.

becomingoverweight:

I have a desire. Its just that I dont know how sex will feel so how am i supposed to know if I will like it i mean. When I experince sexual attraction I want to do something with the other person and my guess is that it would be sex. I think its just my mind not knowing what it is getting into. So i do desire it but, i dont fully desire now because I dont know the pleasure that sex will bring. every person ive talked to has said im not asexual.

I suppose an asexual is someone who doesn't have a sexual desire to have sex. Someone could be asexual, not mind having sex, just not really desiring it, but willingly having sex to please a partner. An asexual could still be sexually turned on by someone/something, it just won't make them want to have sex. I think you might be homoromantic asexual.[/quote]
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