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Hello so I am starting to think that I seriously want to be in a relationship that involves Feederism. I fall into the feeder category and whenever I see a guy I�m attracted to instantly feel aroused. Like just the thought of them and how they are fat just turns me on. It�s like I don�t even think about the person themselves and it makes me feel terrible sometimes. I fear that I would just be incapable to be in a relationship with this fetish in my life because I will be too obsessed with wanting them to gain weight. Like the thought of whom I was with would instantly arouse me and would I even think of them as a person and not care about the romantic side of the relationship.

I would really love some advice on this? Am I overthinking or underestimating myself. I am also a virgin and have never been any relationship btw! Did anyone have this same fear but later is in a relationship where they strike a balance. If your significant other wanted to lose weight would that be okay with you?

You're absolutely correct, though. If I constantly mention my wife's weight, she undoubtedly feels objectified and as if it's all I focus on. It's a mental battle to be filled with glee watching her grow by the day and restrain my tongue from pointing it out continually.

The best thing that ever happened is she started overeating by herself because the whole strategy and effort of "feeding" was beginning to be exhausting for me personally. There would be times I would put so much money and time into a fattening meal that she wouldn't eat and I would actually angry. It was unhealthy.

"Control" and dominance is generally at the heart of any feeder relationship, but you have to learn to let go to a certain degree before it really starts to consume you and start objectifying your partner.