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How did you find a balance?

Hello so I am starting to think that I seriously want to be in a relationship that involves Feederism. I fall into the feeder category and whenever I see a guy I�m attracted to instantly feel aroused. Like just the thought of them and how they are fat just turns me on. It�s like I don�t even think about the person themselves and it makes me feel terrible sometimes. I fear that I would just be incapable to be in a relationship with this fetish in my life because I will be too obsessed with wanting them to gain weight. Like the thought of whom I was with would instantly arouse me and would I even think of them as a person and not care about the romantic side of the relationship. I also fear that when they start gaining, I will just be constantly aroused by them. Like when I think about them I am scared that all I will think about is them getting fat?

I would really love some advice on this? Am I overthinking or underestimating myself. I am also a virgin and have never been any relationship btw! Did anyone have this same fear but later is in a relationship where they strike a balance. If your significant other wanted to lose weight would that be okay with you?
5 years

How did you find a balance?

I think you are overthinking all of this.
If you find a guy you like and then get to know him you may forget all about your fears because you will see they are just fantasies you have.
Don't let your fears take over your life just let things happen naturally.
Like you said you have never been in a relationship so you really don't have any experience in the matter so you don't really know what is going to happen.
5 years