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If you have something to say John, say it.
I am always mature and respectful to anyone, not just on forums, but in life generally.
Feel free to expand on your little comment.

Lots of serious feminists on feabie.

It's not great, but it's easier to pop onto Feabie and scroll around than it is here. I wouldn't consider Feabie as a product any good and the way they handle moderation is embarrassingly bad.

Feminism is not gender equality it's female rights. There is a problem when men transition to women and want the feminism to given them extra rights. Women have their own sports which men are now invading. Feminist men are the worst since they are just white knighting for sex.

I always question when instead of addressing arguments, a response is a personal attack.

Makes me suspect that the personal attack may be a tacit admission that the arguments made are valid, but disliked.

I've actually been burned on both sites and don't see much difference except:

Feabie has a public feed, so you see whatever people care to post on there, including complaints and accusations. And of course this causes counter-complaints and counter-accusations. You're much more conscious of issues that may have nothing to do with you.

Feabie has near-line chat, which neatly combines chat and messaging...ff has on-line chat plus messaging and it's not very easy to transition from one to another. So communication between individuals is much easier on Feabie. This facilitates good interactions, but also facilitates bad interactions. So Feabie will tend to be better or worse than ff depending on what you're about and who you're interacting with.

i haven’t been “burned” by feabie but i don’t care for it on a personal level. it’s not a place where i feel like i am around people who have my same interests, it mostly feels like constant drama and young people looking for a lot of attention...which is fine and all, but not really what i want out of the site for myself. i would love to use it as a dating site or to meet new people but in my area but it’s all a bunch of college kids and while i am only 30, i am not interested in that.

i have a profile which i think just has the links to my clip site. i don’t really care about feabie.

Same area as you (in fact I think we've chatted on here and there)
But I'll attest to the college kids, last one I remember talking too asked if I wanted to go clubbing or something and I just kinda laughed at the idea.

Mostly because 1 it was a work day for me (granted on my Friday), but my work leaves me somewhere between physically drained and wanting to scream into a void.

2. I just don't like going to clubs I've tried (on your recommendation I think) and it's just not for me.

all[/quote]psmyth:
This is my exact problem with feabie: it seems to be 95% desperate 19 to 25 year old people and that just isn't me. I am very happily married and 35 and trust me I don't wan't attention. I have been a member of DIMS for a really really long time and no drama or attention seeking there at all[/quote]

I can see your point. In fact, I notice that a substantial number of the women complain about the quality of the men they attract, even as they behave in a way that chases any good guys off.

You can't immediately call any guy who disagrees with you on anything, no matter how trivial, names up to and including full on verbal abuse, then expect other guys to line up to pursue you for a RL relationship.

The guys who want to get to know you, maybe have a real relationship with you, are going to avoid this conflict and abuse, leaving your suitors limited to the childish ones who just want to "dip their wick" and move on.

I can almost hear the protests "but if I found a GOOD guy I would not treat him like that!". But realize that your behavior online is an advertisement for YOU. If you advertise yourself as difficult who do you expect to respond?

The begging for money is kinda like that too. Guys looking for someone with similar interests for a real relationship are generally looking for a partner, not burden to carry. In general, if he is sending you money it is not to establish a relationship, it is to purchase entertainment.

Of course, this just feeds the resentment and fuels the same abuse that chased the good guys off in the first place.

Just seems like a lot of unhappy people doing things that feed the status quo of unhappiness. I wish they could break the cycle and be more happy and successful.

This is not to let the childish guys off the hook either, but most of the complaining is from the female perspective. The male kiddies just post dumb stuff and more on.

This is a LOT of what I see on Feabie, more so for the young folks, but sadly at all ages. I find myself narrowing my view there more and more all the time because I just don't want to even SEE all that nonsense, let alone participate.