Do you ever feel shame for this fetish ?

Joined 6 years

Not really. To be fair, I’m not really that into it. I don’t want to be fat myself, I wouldn’t care if my partner was fat or not. I just like reading the stories and hearing what it’s like for other people. I definitely don’t think that’s a bad thing.

4 years

Do you ever feel shame for this fetish ?

Serph

Joined 5 years

Not really its a part of me, better to accept and embrace it

4 years

Do you ever feel shame for this fetish ?

Zelda64

Joined 5 years

LilRascl:
For most people I’ve spoken to about this, which has been a lot (I like to hear people’s feedism backstories), nearly all of us have had to deal with some amount of shame along the way towards engaging confidently and happily with this fetish community.
What that shame has felt like to each person whose experienced it, though, does tends to vary. For me it wasn’t thinking negatively about myself for what was turning me on, just a *strong, deep-seated* apprehension and aversion towards any notion of where my feedee desires might one day take me if I let myself go. I had a very limited range of fantasy weight gain and anything beyond that gave me a jolt of anxiety and instantly turned me off.
I knew at the time that the anxiety feels came from the fear of only belonging outside of society as I knew it, like a “fear of future shame”... in hindsight, there’s not a lot of difference, if any, to the shame you asked about.

I encourage you to keep in mind that feeling ashamed of a fetish, or any aspect of your sexuality and/or fantasies, is a reaction to the way you’ve seen fatness and/or feedism rejected by your family/loved ones, social life, and society as a whole. A few thousand years ago, social rejection meant certain death; this is not a trivial thing to overcome.

tl;dr: The shame is normal. It’s just your lizard brain telling you you’ll die if you buck societal rules and norms (you won’t).

Honestly, I’ve got a load I could add about how I personally got from “there” to here, if you want to hear it..? I tend to ramble in these posts so I’ll spare y’all until I’m asked 🤣

I would actually love to hear it!

4 years

Do you ever feel shame for this fetish ?

PhoenixChimera

Joined 15 years

I used to, I always liked bigger girls but would take a fair bit of flack for it from peers. I remember a particularly cruel ex-friend singing ‘what’s that coming over the hill’ when he saw my then-partner. His mates joined in, it was awful! I couldn’t get away from them fast enough.
Back then I was so scared of what people thought and how cruel they were that I was thin for camouflage and had a dangerous habit of not eating and was so unhappy, I knew it had to change.
I’m so glad it has, I’m not ashamed any more, and those comments in the street don’t have the effect they want them to any more!

4 years

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PhoenixChimera

Joined 15 years

kissoo:
I'm still relatively new to this world so I do feel a bit of shame when questions come from family and friends. Although I'm the feeder in my relationship, so my poor husband has to deal with most of the concern/nagging.

Aww bless him, sounds like he deserves a sweet sugary treat for being good.
And I think I do too.

4 years

Do you ever feel shame for this fetish ?

PhoenixChimera

Joined 15 years

Bigbellieddreams:
The only time I feel embarrassed if I’m talking to someone who doesn’t share the same fetish, like my ex found out and saw everything and he was kind of shaming me when he was asking but it was just awkward when he went in my phone and found everything lol

He went in your phone?! That’s a red flag right there in my book.
I can’t hide it any more, nor do I want to. If my next partner can’t accept this part of me then I know they’re not the one.

4 years

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Serph

Joined 5 years

Wouldnt say shame but fetish and kinks are often awkward to bring up in general unless you know the other person is into it.

4 years

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LondonFA

Joined 10 years

Very much at times. My wife has gone from around 105lbs to over 200 in a short time and her gain really started when I started being honest.

As a result I sometimes feel that I made her fat.
I like the idea if she had asked me first, or she was fat when I met her (she was over 200ls until a few years before we met but lost 100lbs on a crazy series of diets) but never mentioned it until she started gaining again.

To try resolve it I often ask myself if she seems more happy and confident now than when we met, and it certainly seems so. She's more.demanding and sees herself more equal to her peers and her boss and to me and seems to feel.more confident/powerful in ever pound she gains.

She also seems to enjoy playing with her tummy a lot and strangely since gaining has switched to more revealing clothing (could be the heat).

If your preferences result in a healthy relationship then there should be less guilt than if they dont

4 years

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Funwithbbw

Joined 4 years

I am not the least bit ashamed. I love big ladies, and I am vocal about it. Everyone that knows me, knows I love big ladies. Before I retired, occasionally an associate would make the mistake of trying to make fun of me for it, they eneded up being humiliated everytime. My go to was accusing them of having SPS, when I explained because of SPS they could not handle a big lady, everyone laughed and made fun of that person. The rest of the associates decided I was not the one to be messed with. I was not at the meeting where it was decided that large ladies were not pretty. Was not there when it was decided they could not wear bikinis. I don't let others dictate what I like. My almost 400 pound wife, wears her bikini and guys are always trying to hang around her. She has plenty of admirers. Don't be ashame, stand up and be proud. Ladies, confidence is the most sexy thing you can be, it certainly works for my wife. Men find her sexy and hot.

4 years

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Wanttobefat600

Joined 5 years

I've struggled for quite some time with feeling of shame about my fetish. My ex especially made this bad because I thought I could open up to her about how I feel as she was obese herself and strugged with depression and being self conscious, however I was told multiple times that I'm weird and that she wouldn't love me if I was fat. Being treated that way from someone I loved without question definitely has worsened my depression from having to be ashamed of my feelings, but I'm slowly starting to fix myself and realize that no one can stop me from gaining and getting the body I want because I'm done letting others make me feel bad about something that makes me happy.

4 years

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