Nok:
Not really, but I do recognize the unrealistic nature of its most extreme aspects. To be happy life (imho) requires moderating fantasies with facts to create realistic expectations.
Fact: It's generally less healthy for a 5'2 woman to be 400lbs than 150lbs.
Fact: Society is a bitch and our culture involves a lot of inherent fat shaming right now.
Fact: I want other things out of life besides just a fat partner.
Reality: Finding a partner into the same fantasies but open to role playing together is probably a much better jumping off point for having an overall fulfilling (and long) life.
Good points. I'd say finding a partner that's on the same page is the hardest thing. If only it were as simple as 'she's already fat she'll be thrilled when I suggest I like it and suggest she can eat more and anything they like.' A lot of people have so much stigma built up that even if they're fat they hate themselves just because....that's how society says you should feel and your compliments don't get taken seriously or can even be met with anger (inherently think you can't be serious and just being a dick.
I feel guilty I guess because yes the further it goes the more you're technically encouraging someone to be unhealthy. I myself always stay fairly fit and have no gaining desires and I'm not even much into food myself. But I guess opposites attract and I find BBW who practically love food as much as sex to be irresistible.
I was recently in a relationship where she was already quite fat when we met and put on a bit more throughout. I encouraged her for her looks and her appetite and she actually learned to genuinely love her body, wear more revealing clothes, eat completely freely, etc. But if I go so far as suggesting purposely gaining weight that's where the hard lines start to come in with most people. Many see it as you trying to change them and nobody likes the overbearing feeling of that.
