projectpolemics:
What impresses me about people who hate fat people is their arrogance.
Not everyone has to adore people with hanging folds of blubber, who bounce with every little movement. I totally get that some people want to romance someone lithe and taut, or be an athlete themselves.
But...
I was looking around for more testimonials of people who settled into a happy feeding relationship, and a lot of the hits are negative. I mean, of course. A lot of the "tragic" stories turn me on- isn't it a shame your soulmate turned into a big fat blob? Yum yum.
But the arrogance is profound. There's this huge undercurrent of "I work so hard, I look so good, my sex is perfect, and my SO is so unworthy of it all, they don't even maintain themselves to my standard, I'm disgusted! How could I ever respect someone who doesn't work as hard on their body as MOI?"
Like, Christ on a chicken sandwich, GET OVER YOURSELF!
People use the shorthand language of "taking care of yourself" to rationalize their own demented cruelty, flipping their bigotry into a kind of altruism.
What can we do about it?
It's tough, because it's easy to just talk shit online, but meaningful positive interactions take place on such a smaller scale. Person to person, letting fat people who want to slim down feel that it's not "their fault", that they haven't "failed" or are morally compromised.
And the best part, letting fat people who are a little extra hungry know that the world would be a better place if they took up more of its space...
This is why we need fat feminism and the fat acceptance community!
