Fat experiences

I've been considered short and thin all of my life. When I hit 40, my metabolism slowed down and I plumped up quickly. I recieved a mixture of reactions. Some were VERY friendly with me while others just looked at me seeming to be less responsive than when I was smaller. I'm 5'3, making every pound count. For those of you who started small and became overweight, did you receive different reactions after the weight gain?

That's terrible.

I've openly dated both skinny girls and fat girls. A lot more fat girls than skinny girls, but, enough to experience the grand canyon divide between how people treat you when you're dating a fat girl vs a skinny girl. Dating a skinny girl, even if she's a piece of shit, is like going in for a job interview when your dad is the CEO, only everyone you meet is the interviewer. People fucking love you when you date a skinny girl. Dating a fat girl is like being that person who has 4 advanced degrees and 20 years of experience, only to be passed up for the CEO's son because the interviewer thinks people with facial hair are Muslim terrorists and you might be a pedophile and he already got the job anyway.

I still prefer dating fat women, but god damn it, does it get exhausting sometimes dealing with OTHER PEOPLE. Fuck society yo. My girlfriend's mom has literally called me a mentally ill goblin deviant for being attracted to her daughter.

My mother is a great lady. However, she always makes it a point to let me know when I have gained weight.

I'm sorry to hear that. Life is complicated for sure.

I was actually treated extremely rude by family when I got thinner. When I was fatter they loved me. I can’t really tell that much of a difference with strangers.

I started gaining at 150. When the weight really started to show people that knew me as skinny thought that I was depressed and sad. Once my boss took to me lunch. A place known for their salads and had an “honest” conversation with me about possibly having a binge eating disorder. Why else would I be gaining so much weight? Those in my life “ felt sorry for me” because as they put it I would not find a wife and letting my “ best years pass me by”. When I moved away to attend grad school new people in my life only ever knew me as fat. They were able to see my life was full and I was living good.

Yes they did. Insults seemed to be coming daily until I finally said screw them,it is my body and I like it! So I went from the original 170 to 235,then up to 315.What the future brings,I'll just let happen and enjoy the ride.

Same here since I became the fat one out of my mother and sister.

I started gaining weight in high school, and my family was pretty rude about it. My grandparents came to see me graduate, but made fun of my weight. I responded by not going to any family functions for the next seven years.

My mom, who has always struggled with her weight, was furious with her folks and when I did eventually assent to coming to a Thanksgiving, she told them to keep their traps shut or they wouldn't see either of us for another seven years. They kept quiet and the rest of the family has been quiet since. It helps that some of the family have gained as they aged, though I'm 95% sure I'm the heaviest and I'm still extremely conscious of what little I eat whenever I'm around the extended family.

As for friends, I haven't heard a peep about my weight since...well, ever. I guess it helps that a lot of my friends growing up were and still are fat. But even if they weren't, I doubt they'd say anything, even in a concern trolling context.

The only time any stranger has commented on my size was when my wife and I were in Tokyo a few years ago. I was out getting breakfast for us about the time kids were walking to school. A kid passed me, looked up at me and said, "Oohki gaijin desu!" ("That's a big foreigner!" To be fair, I'm 6' & 290 pounds, and I stood out a mile in Tokyo.) My Japanese is basic but I still understood, and gave them a smiling 'I know what you said, kid,' look. 'Oh crap, they know' flashed across the kid's face and they hurried off.