Jiggle Junkie:
...western societies define and judge women by attractiveness and sex appeal, and value them highly as sex objects. Show up to an online community as a woman and watch your message box blow up, just by existing.
BiteSize:
THIS! And it doesn’t even matter what community I am existing in. It doesn’t even have to be a kink space. Dudes will still try to flirt (at least on a kink site I’m somewhat anticipating it, but, like... on an antique toy auction group? LoL YES! True story! Dude was selling some vintage toys on a local market and tried to get a date with it)
Yeah I guess that’s the reason.
And it seems to perpetuate itself...the more “scarce” women are the more desperate *some* men become which results in more inappropriate behaviour online which results in women leaving the online domain because they’re being harassed or doxxed or overwhelmed which results in a greater imbalance.
I’ve found that to be the case with dating apps so I imagine it’s even worse here.
Well actually i know it is, I’ve chatted to maybe 300 feedees over the years - 95% of them disappeared, and in the rare case that they left me a goodbye message it was often because they were being harassed or some creep had found them on social media.
Or because the social pressure on women to look fit and toned is massive. It exists for men but not to the same level. It causes most feedees I’ve chatted to to hate themselves for what they’re doing and feel as though they’re weak for giving in to their fetish so it’s like being tortured in a way.
Side note :
When I see a feedee posting daily who wants to gain 200lbs I’ll bet my car that they’ll be gone in a month.
I think being able to enjoy it in moderation is important. And not completely separating it from your own morals.