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There are women out here who love and get our life and most of them I have met were from the south. I moved to North Carolina and South Carolina and the ladies were competing to see how fat they could get their men so they are out there but most are into us but they have to keep up appearances.

Agreed, I have been with several women like this and at first it is very off putting because you don't think that they are being real about your attraction until you catch them playing with your gut while you sleep or you catch them getting off to just playing with your back fat. I suggest moving to rural areas because they prefer fat males there

There is nothing much you can do to stop folks from leaving until you can make this lifestyle of ours mainstream and it might never get like that because we live in a consumer society and they know we can't be skinny but the marketing strategy is to make an ideal almost out of reach and they will spend millions to attain it. My motto is to waddle where you are appreciated and that is the South in America for me. Only in certain parts of Africa have I ever gotten that much love and in places like that it is a cultural thing for the women to be obese and for her to fatten her husband. In this life, we must understand the difference between being alone and loneliness and so many of us suffer from loneliness because we have been taught that we can have this magical soul mate who fits all these categories when the truth is that you are never alone; you just won't let go of the fact that you can't have exactly what society said that you deserved. I understand that as a superobese straight black male who has a stomach that hangs way past his belt; there aren't many options that will admit it openly but there are plenty who appreciate it in the dark.. DC is a super fit town and yet I get asked out on dates all the time by military women who have secret fat fetishes but they can't get fat so they playfully mess with mine. There are those who adore us but don't let these attention frauds and online obese female capitalists get you down; just preemptively block them before it gets there. I have so many on here trying to get me to send them money to feed them when I am a part time chef's consultant so why would I send them money for food when they can come to me to eat a feast ? You just can pay most of these frauds online any mind.

I can respect why it is so difficult for people to stay in this community and accept who they are as feedist. Ultimately this fetish is quite counter to what society preaches.

On a personal note the reasons I ever take a break from it all is the fact it is so depressing trying to find feeders and keep conversations with them before the delete or ghost. I've been doing this for a couple years now and haven't once had an in person feeding. I can also count on my hand how many video chat feedings I have.

Kinda the "well if I am not wanted, why stay" attitude.

But this is why I tell folks that they must be their own feeder because too many folks just use this site to jerk off to the fat talk or beg you to give them money so you must become the fullest extension of fatness as you can. You can't expect too much from this site other than on that rare occasion you will find someone who gets it but the numbers are not in our favor until this lifestyle becomes popular. Until then, you must be your own feeder

Maybe Fantasy feeder should bring back to good old fake or real meter that worked really well in the past!

I mean you were automatically voted fake by not living in the USA or UK.

Also you were voted fake if you were male.

Voted fake if you didn't belong to Fantasy Feeder "inner circle"

Maybe moderators should have more power, we all remember that one woman moderator who didn't abuse moderating power at all and banned males because they "males" or voted them fakes.

Just wanna take a minute to point out how much of a chiller WideJuan76 is. It's users like this that keep the community alive.

I can see where you're coming from with this and acknowledge there's some truth to that, but as a young person exploring kink myself I don't think we should shut out people who are experimenting. I feel like that would make the community a lot more toxic. Merging topics makes sense but outright deleting them I think would make this community a lot more exclusive.

That said again, I think you bring up some valid points.

I rarely come on here anymore, and if I do come on I mostly just lurk. It’s hard to find people who are interesting outside of fat-related topics, and I’ve already paired off with someone who is anyways.

Thanks sir, I just try to keep things as chill and be as real as can because I know some of the philosophy of this life and I just try to give it freely