Fattening others

For me, the excitement of getting others to gain made it very tempting to gain a few pounds too. At some point, I just gave into seeing what I am doing to others. It only started with a goal of 15 lbs to see if I could handle it. Before I knew it, I had actually put on 30 lbs. I was shocked at how much I gained but I really liked how soft I was getting. After 30 more lbs, I love it. The tables were turned.

desperation to engage in their fetish in a way that is tangible. it can be difficult finding a partner who is a good fit and the real deal.

it is for this that the mutual gainer and the most balanced, I think

I can relate to this. I know this is an old thread, but here’s my personal experience:

I’m a feeder and FA by nature, from the beginning. Not really a feedee at all. I turned to a gainer lifestyle after I realized how unlikely it was that I would ever find a feedee to share my specific fantasy with. Especially considering my lifestyle (asexual, aromantic, and only interested in women feedees. And I’m a woman.)

So, I essentially am my own feeder. I look at it like I have a feedee but that feedee is myself. That might sound a little crazy, and for me it definitely doesn’t feel ideal. But, it’s better than nothing.

Fat

I ended up getting deep into an emotional hole and started eating to cope. After eating to the point it hurt one night, I decided "screw fattening others, I'm going to fatten up for a while."
And I hadn't looked back.

I think that it mostly comes from the realization that you can't find alot of feeders that are in your area so you eventually turn that inward. I have always had feeder tendencies because I was taught how to cook early so I loved to see people eat my cuisine and I always loved food but never to the point of getting full because I hated that sensation as a kid until I met my ex after college and she introduced me to this life and she started out as the feedee until she posed this question to me. What will happen if you don't have a feedee around then what will you do with those urges so I had to existentially think about that and realize that I have always had a secret relationship with fat so the eventual evolutionary step for me was to turn it inward. At first, I hated it because I was so used to being the enabler and I never saw myself as the type to be the one receiving the food and it is a transition but you eventually can't stop eating until you get full and you like that more than anything until you finally have that "I am fat" moment. This young lady that I am dating ask me to waddle over to her and I thought she was making fun of me until I realized that I can't walk without waddling now so that might be why feeders become feedees

Etiola:
I sooooo need to find a FA partner who'll treat me like his goddess! Maybe I'd end up embracing my fat instead of hating it.[/quote]

Your really cute, i would help you embrace your fat and weight gain.

I don't know which could be the reason...but day by day I m also more attracted to being a feedee than a feeder too

Most cases frustration as the women (I've came across) already heard the horror stories online/offline about feeders who look for the exit door when their desired feedees balloon out of their comfort zone to where they feel they are 'too fat' or unable to provide care etc.

I can say mutual gaining did make me a better feeder, as I saw up-close that enjoyment of food and what it brings adds so much more. That variety and fulfilling different cravings can go farther than 5 items of 1 thing, unless the craving is that strong.

I also saw the lack of skills in some feeders as well based on their stories. Some things are FA related, as simple things like bringing the car closer to the front of the restaurant or using bigger cars/waiting on bigger or accessible taxis etc. Though it seems some just want to spend $25.00 on food, get their rocks off and move on to the next. Definitely learned what works and what doesn't.