Anjou:
Does she like the contrast or does it make her feel insecure?
She loves the contrast of my muscles. But she does get insecure only when seeing old friends. Particularly friends that haven't had kids, ultra-skinny, basically haven't aged since they were 22.
We've even had moments where her old co-workers complimented my physique and then turned to her "And you look....... happy!"
Almost all of our neighbors' wives, friends and her current co-workers are quite heavy. So she generally doesn't think about her weight all that much anymore. Everything is relative. She's the thin girl in the group when you're around 300lb+ women.