General

I am polyamorous, both by personality and in practice. While my partner of 23 years and I do not live together, and we are currently not sexually active together, we're still very committed to each other, and are open to the possibility of our sexuality returning. We're actively working on it.

But I also love several other men, some for many years, as well. I have had an off again/on again relationship with one man for about the same length of time as I've been married (off when he is being monogamous with a partner). Another is more recent.

I have no question about the capacity to love--and to be genuinely romantically and sexually involved with--more than one partner at a time. I would find it limiting and strange to try to live monogamously.

My partner, on the other hand, is more monogamous. He didn't feel the need to restrict me, though I don't flaunt other lovers in front of him. He is happier with one person than I am, though I imagine he has had other lovers over the years as well.

My friends who know have been as gentle and generous as they can manage. I know they have judgmental moments, which is a drag. But they handle it well enough, for which I'm grateful.

It's nice to know there are others of us here, though, so thanks for starting the thread, Jo.

This is a really old thread but I figured I’d resurrect it because of my own curiosity if there are others here.

And especially because nonmonogomy and polyamory has become more mainstream.

This is definitely my preferred relationship structure and has been since I was 16, so for just about 30 years now!

Wife and I thought about it a while back but didn’t find anyone local. A common problem, as they say :-) Your pics are quite stimulating for the thought, though :-)

I have grown up with polyamory as something normal (my parents had an open marriage), so it is my default relationship orientation. I have always been poly, but I have tried to please former partners by abstaining from sex with others and living “monogamously” which didn’t change my inner orientation but would have looked monogamous to others.

For me it is actually difficult to imagine that it is possible to restrict one’s feelings of love to only one person.

I do usually have stable, long term relationships only, not the casual type. Usually only two at a time since time and energy are limited.

I’m polyamorous and in relationships with multiple people currently.

I love it, it’s very freeing and I am in relationships with amazing people who make me so happy.

I’m quoting someone from Tumblr who said it better than I can:
 

Just my opinion though, as different relationship dynamics work for others.

I've always liked the idea of it for several reasons, but I've never tried it myself. I may be open to it with the right dynamics.