Fat experiences

For those of you wondering if your wife/partner is going to gain on their own...read this

This has been so enjoyable to read!! Keep us posted. I’m a big fan of the numbers/planning aspect, as nerdy as that sounds!
3 years

For those of you wondering if your wife/partner is going to gain on their own...read this

This has been so enjoyable to read!! Keep us posted. I’m a big fan of the numbers/planning aspect, as nerdy as that sounds!
3 years

For those of you wondering if your wife/partner is going to gain on their own...read this

So you're pushing your fetish on to her and trying to manipulate her into gaining weight over time.

Classy.
3 years

For those of you wondering if your wife/partner is going to gain on their own...read this

All I got out of that whole post was "She's not dumb"

You could use a lesson in morality. Just because you can do something doesn't mean you should.

Invite her to the site. Tell her everything. Be a real man. See what happens. I dare you.
3 years

For those of you wondering if your wife/partner is going to gain on their own...read this

Just like every other secret feeder I've ever encountered. Spineless coward.

If you're not man enough to tell her, maybe you picked the wrong woman.

Your actions represent us all. Newbies come on to the site and see this and think stuff like this is okay. Other people looking for a reason to hate us even more use posts like this as a great source of ammo.

You do a disservice to us all.
3 years

For those of you wondering if your wife/partner is going to gain on their own...read this

I have all the ground, we come in a lot of different flavors and most of them taste like "Ruined by the internet"

There is nothing natural about what you're doing.

Tell your wife about what your doing. Don't encourage anyone to follow in your footsteps.

Encourage honesty instead. Give it a try.

Fantasies are one thing but if they cross the line into reality and you still can't open up....you've got a problem.

Just gaslighting, man. Mind games. So much for trust in a relationship eh?

This sort of thing ends in self hatred. I guess if you can live with that result, then...cool.

Far be it from me to try and stop you from jumping into the fire.

She's not a character in one of your stories. Stop treating her like one.
3 years

For those of you wondering if your wife/partner is going to gain on their own...read this

BBWcreator82:
All I got out of that whole post was "She's not dumb"

You could use a lesson in morality. Just because you can do something doesn't mean you should.

Invite her to the site. Tell her everything. Be a real man. See what happens. I dare you.


I don't have the energy to get too far into this but I second this ^

All this would be perfectly fine if it were pure fantasy, but if this is a real human being we're talking about, and you're their spouse . . . ugh. Dude, the fact that you're doing all this on the DL and posting about it here to chat about it with us is very manipulative, and there's no way it can pan out well if you don't communicate any of this. You can start out subtle and small and introduce her to these ideas little by little if you're nervous- that's understandable!!- but you have to show enough trust in her as your partner to make her own decisions. If she's open enough to it to allow herself to start eating bigger portions, like you've said, then there's no reason to think that she's so dumb that she wouldn't recognize that enjoyment in herself- very soon, if not right now. For one thing I don't know if any woman anywhere in Western culture can gain much more than 15 pounds without at least some friends/family/coworkers/etc making comments about her body; that's virtually inevitable in modern life as a woman. Which also means, maybe she's totally aware of it and finds that she's fine with it, and this convo could end great. You don't know if you don't try.
If she's honestly been so distracted that she hasn't noticed any of this even to herself, and one day down the line she realizes you've manipulated her into a version of herself that she hates for your own kicks, how can that end well? How can it end in anything other than resentment and loathing, once she finds out the ways that you've tried to control her and her body? Without her consent? If she hasn't noticed herself yet and she doesn't reciprocate if you do try the hard thing, to bring it up in an honest, mature conversation SOON, then sure she could be mad. She would have the right to be, but it would also pass with time and effort. You can figure out a way to mend it and live without hurting this woman you love, and keep fantasy alive for yourself but separate from your marriage. Why treat any fantasy like it's more important than the person you've committed your whole life to?

You can of course feel free to respond to this with anger but I'm not here to engage in some big argument if you're not in a place where you're ready to consider changing what you're doing. I just hope that you pause and reflect on the big picture for your own sake as well as your wife's.
3 years