Lifestyle tips

I got into intuitive eating (as in, Health at Every Size) as a means of recovering from disordered eating (I will always recommend the podcast Food psych as that was the turning point for me in actually understanding health at every size as well as size oppression and how to fight it) It was hard because gaining weight is hard, but I ate whatever I wanted whenever I want and still do, and gained 40 pounds in probably 6 months, which was thrilling and scary all at once. That was over a year ago. Now, my body doesn’t gain weight when I eat a lot, so I feel like that means it’s happy at this weight, and I don’t get strong desires to gain anymore, so it genuinely seems to me like my fetish desires were lined up with the desires of my body to be more thoroughly nourished and not deal with restriction anymore. Because of my eating disorder, I always thought my whole system was at war with itself. Now, I recognize my fetish as directly tied to my eating disorder because it was trying to save me from it, could be that’s the case for you.

This is definitely the case for me personally. I was one of the uncommon male boys with anorexia but I just seemed to outgrow it one day in my late teens. Over the years, the disordered eating has slowly transitioned into binge eating. I used to be able to keep a handle on it, but in the last 18 months, it’s gotten pretty out of control. But the thing is, I’m really into it. I enjoy it all the time. There are very very rare moments when I regret it but they are getting more rare, with the more I’m overeating and gaining.

Just to say - great recommendation on that podcast! I started at like episode 43 (earliest I could find?) And it's super interesting to hear their take on diet culture as a feminist issue, damaging impacts of negative self talk, etc etc. Thanks for sharing - v helpful to switch into a different perspective. Still chewing over the question: "What would it mean to be ok with your body?"