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You guys must be new...welcome to FF.

:-)

Sure.

I have this problem on feabie

I've developed the mindset that EVERYONE is a catfish/hiding from their husband until proven otherwise.

Guilty until proven innocent instead of innocent until proven guilty. Works better that way.

I agree with BlackJack. I had maybe 2-3 of these messages over the past year, and I've had 5 in the last few days.

I get a lot of that stuff, especially on Feabie. Usually it's it's a pic of a hot young woman who's not even a bbw and a message saying "Hi". I'm 65 so I know what they want, but I'm surprised they don't make more of an effort.

Absolutely. Ever since FF and Feabie showed up on TV shows so people could make fun of those who were different again, these sites have been populated almost entirely by fake profiles. Shitty people found out they could abuse people's desire for a relationship to extort money. Funnnn.

Oh, I didn't notice the part in the OP about lesbianism. It's not just you. It happens to men every day. Because due to the actions of a few high-profile shitty men, we all deserve it I guess.

Men pretending to be women seeking out lesbians?
That doesn't seem to make sense.
I mean what good is it going to do him in the end, lesbians aren't interested in guys.

I see those shouts and posts and just don't pay any attention to them.
I get my share of guys wanting a hook up then when I call them out on it they get mad at me.
After all it says right in my profile I am not here for a hook up but then again most men never read a girls profile. lol

^ Yes. Fastest and easiest way to handle it.



It is disturbing how rampant overdeveloped senses of entitlement are in society, unfortunately especially amongst het men. I do admit having some of that years ago, until more clearly understanding that no one owes me anything beyond basic civility to the degree they choose to interact with me—and same the other way around.

No wonder (in general) women don’t respond: the probability of hostility is extremely high no matter what her answer. And every non-response is time not wasted: saved for productive life activities.



I’ve had a sample of this since putting up a femme-presenting avatar pic here on FF. It’s eye-opening, and in my case usually amusing.