I would like to pass on my experience of being a FA and my relationship with my partner. My partner is older than me and the best way to describe her is she is a granny. When i met her she was probably around 300 + pounds and in her mid 30's. Big bellied, agile, she could also walk long distances. She would dance and party. Her weight was relatively stable maybe gaining a few pounds a year. She entered her 40's she still had good mobbilty but towards her late 40's she was starting to slow down, also developing a few aches and pains. She entered her 50:s then things started to change. Her knees were the 1st thing that started causing discomfort her hips were next then her lower back. She was probably 350 pounds. She stopped driving a manual transmission and went to automatic. The 1st sign of loss of mobility was she needed a crutch to walk. Which became 2 crutches. In her mid to late 50's standing or walking any distance was near impossible and she was registered disabled. She now had a mobility scooter to get about on when going out. She could no longer get up the stairs of the house, so a chair lift was installed. Also she could not stand to shower so a wet room was built where she can sit to shower. Into her 60's initially she kept enough mobility to keep her independence.
But that is when things started to change significantly. She was now around 400 pounds. Her legs became painful her hips hurt. Also lower back pain. She was 5 foot 5 and a half inches. Today she is a very different woman. The changing point was she had a fall. Fortunately nothing was broken. But it altered her physically and mentally. She was in hospital but came home a very different woman. She has lost about 3 inches in height her shoulders are rounded and she stands with a stoop. She finds using her mobility scooter uncomfortable and has just gone into her wheelchair. Which is used around the home and garden. Or trips out. When she does stand and needs to move she uses a walker. The fall a small moment in time has had a huge impact on her. She is now a very large elderly woman, with limited mobility. We have discussed mobility for many years. We both knew she would eventually become bed bound. Which we are currently planning for. But there are a few places and things she wants to do before becoming immobile. In short if anyone is on the larger side in my experience you cannot predict the outcome the only thing you can do is be aware of the risks associated with living large. As my lady recently put it ...
I can't complain,
I did it too myself.
I like being fat.
She is now looking forward to the next phase of her life.
But that is when things started to change significantly. She was now around 400 pounds. Her legs became painful her hips hurt. Also lower back pain. She was 5 foot 5 and a half inches. Today she is a very different woman. The changing point was she had a fall. Fortunately nothing was broken. But it altered her physically and mentally. She was in hospital but came home a very different woman. She has lost about 3 inches in height her shoulders are rounded and she stands with a stoop. She finds using her mobility scooter uncomfortable and has just gone into her wheelchair. Which is used around the home and garden. Or trips out. When she does stand and needs to move she uses a walker. The fall a small moment in time has had a huge impact on her. She is now a very large elderly woman, with limited mobility. We have discussed mobility for many years. We both knew she would eventually become bed bound. Which we are currently planning for. But there are a few places and things she wants to do before becoming immobile. In short if anyone is on the larger side in my experience you cannot predict the outcome the only thing you can do is be aware of the risks associated with living large. As my lady recently put it ...
I can't complain,
I did it too myself.
I like being fat.
She is now looking forward to the next phase of her life.
2 years
