Tritta93:
Everyone on this forum is open about weight and weight issues, but at least for me not so much in real life. I wonder how usual this is.
When my husband and I started dating 10 years ago he had put on a belly - maybe 240 at 6’0”. I had known him a little bit before he went to college - he was friends with my older sister - and he was in good shape then but put on some weight in college. I thought he looked handsome (obviously or I wouldn’t have kept dating him) and he must have known that but we never talked about his weight.
We dated for a couple years and I knew he was putting on weight - nothing crazy but it was noticeable. I don’t know how many pounds but he wore 46 pants when we got married. We’d talk about food and how much he loved this or that or practical things like a bigger shirt but never about the fact that he was gaining weight. (I don’t think he intentionally gains weight I think he sees it as part of life).
Since we’ve gotten married (and he’s gotten bigger) we still don’t talk about it. Is this normal? I’m not sure what I’d want to say if we did talk.
Not talking about your partner's weight is normal in long-term relationships. If you want to bring your kink up, that's fine. Otherwise, you can keep things as it.
That being said, if you do want to bring it up, you can start small. You can say stuff like "I love a man with meat on his bones." or "I love your teddy bear belly. It makes you feel cuddly." Stuff that women with fat partners say even if they don't have a fetish. Then you can go from there.
