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Hard to say. Being a woman on this site is a ... challenge experience that most people aren't up for. Mind you, I am talking about cis-women as FF has this catch all label called "transgender" that I'm sure trans women don't find annoying at all (sarcasm).

Mind you, there are ciswomen that mislabel themselves for privacy reasons or to keep creeps out their inbox. I labeled myself as "no gender" for a few months while I explored the site bit. I had zero interaction with my profile. But the minute I updated my gender to "female" the creeps started messaging me.

Still, the best way to figure it out is to just talk to them. Generally, they have no idea act, and you can pick them out pretty quickly.

Although some people get it wrong even then. I got accused of being a man twice, but both times it was because I refuse to put pictures of myself on the internet. One guy did realize I'm a woman after talking to me a bit more (had to block him because he was a creep). And the other (a woman) got mad because she checked my profile after 5 minutes of talking to me and didn't see any face or belly pics. (She stopped talking to me after I called her out.)

It's hard for me to realize how many men actually behave, as it is so far from how I interact with men and women. Though, one time, a friend (woman) showed me her inbox on a dating site we both used. I noticed that she had multiple more messages than me, but the quality was way under what I had expected. Most were comments of tits, lousy dating invitations in the first message etc. I can understand the frustration from women who try to be serious. It is also frustrating for serious men who's messages drown in the mailbox due to that. I don't ever mailbomb, if there is mutual intrest I get a reply I presume.
It is not easy to find matches on a regular dating site if one has a fetish, so there's not much to choose from except ff or feabie.

It's hard for me to realize how many men actually behave, as it is so far from how I interact with men and women. Though, one time, a friend (woman) showed me her inbox on a dating site we both used. I noticed that she had multiple more messages than me, but the quality was way under what I had expected. Most were comments of tits, lousy dating invitations in the first message etc. I can understand the frustration from women who try to be serious. It is also frustrating for serious men who's messages drown in the mailbox due to that. I don't ever mailbomb, if there is mutual intrest I get a reply I presume.
It is not easy to find matches on a regular dating site if one has a fetish, so there's not much to choose from except ff or feabie.

I've been told that there used to be more women on here, but I imagine the creeps ran them off.

I'm lucky in that I'm not looking for a partner on here. While I did meet my feedee on here (whom I adore), I realize just how lucky we were to connect. He is part of a handful of decent people on here

So yeah. Women are here, but we are in the minority because of too many toxic creeps. As a result, the men on here get more desperate for some kind of female interaction. This leads the more ... opportunistic men to take advantage of the poor saps.

And from what I've seen around here, it works.

So what's the solution then? We had an old incompetent mod that would say "You know this is FANTASY Feeder right?". If the site is full of fakes, flim flammers and Methodists then what can we do about it?

It's a group effort. Culture's what you make of it. You do what you can, where you can, and encourage others to join you.

As I said, the root of the issue is toxicity. It's not enough to be a decent person. You also have to push back against that behavior and encourage others to be better.

It's like they say. Be the change you want to see in the world. Take me, for example. I frequently get messages from people (mostly men) who saw my forum posts and want advice on being a better feeder/feedee/gainer. And since my advice is more holistic, the conversation inevitably shifts from "how can I get fatter or be a better feeder" to "how can I be my best self."

The topics are pretty heavy. I make them reconsider how they see this kink, women, themselves, and the world. But I can do it because I create a safe space for them. I don't judge them for how they come to me. Instead, I give them the grace, wisdom, and encouragement they need to start their journey.

Sometimes they come back later for advice. Sometimes they don't. But whatever happens, I know they have a better chance of being happier and fulfilled than before we met.

Munchies:
It's a group effort. Culture's what you make of it. You do what you can, where you can, and encourage others to join you.

As I said, the root of the issue is toxicity. It's not enough to be a decent person. You also have to push back against that behavior and encourage others to be better.


EIIe:
All of what you said and especially this part.

It’d also helpful if the moderators would shut down the misogynistic vitriol that comes at the women on this site. I know they already do a lot and it still deserves to be said.

The moderators have a lot more power than they exert. I feel like if they were really trying to shift the culture and make this a safer place for women to explore they’d remove the bad apples.[/quote]

I could be talking out the side of my neck, so forgive me if this is wrong. What I am about to say is 100% based on the things I have seen. I have no special insight and could be missing some very important details.

The guidelines for interacting with others on this site feel very ... loose. So the moderators seem to use their best judgement on a case by case basis. Add to the fact that all the moderators I see seem to have very different values, morals, and ethics. I am not saying that any of them are bad people. I'm just saying that things feel a bit ... patchwork.

I'm not going to say I know the best way of doing things - because I don't. And I don't want to be a moderator. I don't have the time for that. I just feel like there could be more cohesion and better guidelines on what is and isn't allowed so people feel safe but not stifled. Last thing anyone wants is an over correction.

How do you know they are fake? I was once deleted when I first joined for even MENTIONING I modeled professionally. It was against the TOS at the time (apparently...)

So this site is moreso strict on fakes.

On the flip side a lot of people are seeking a feeder and that involves feeding someone. If you are an encourager say that and do not claim to be a feeder.

But there are plenty of real women, I've seen a lot of growers journeys here as well in their profile public , free, noticeable.

I feel like we are talking about apples and oranges. We are talking about the fake female feedee/gainer profiles that try to scam people out of their money. And sometimes, the person is actually a cisman pretending to be a woman for nefarious purposes. I've personally interacted with a couple of those people.

What you are talking about is the way people react to women owning and expressing their sexuality. Still, a good topic of conversation.